I wrote a proper response to this but my piece of shit computer cut me off. To summarise:
- It is not kind to not clean,
- I think you feel that your 'temper tantrums' are a burden and you should be grateful to any man willing to 'put up' with you, and
- clean up or get ill. He won't do it. Battles and games in relationships are a recipe for disaster.
So, good luck!