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It's not the sex that makes me love him. I don't get hung up on guys over sex. Anyone can screw me, and most men are pretty good at it. That part's easily exchangeable.
I don't mind having the cleaning be all my job- IF I don't have to work. Now, my husband has promised me that this will be my last year waitressing.
If he would pay all the bills and I didn't have to work, that would be enough for me!
I want to get out of the rat-race, stop rushing around so much, being irritable and stressed out. I really want to be a homemaker and do some volunteer work. I know my husband is somewhat irresponsible and immature, but if he wants to support me financially, I can let that go!
I love him for many other qualities he has- like the fact that he is always KIND to me, he doesn't overreact when I have my little temper tantrums, and he accepts me as I am. We have fun when we go out, he makes me laugh, he'll go to the store for me at 2 am if I "need" chips, and he doesn't complain a lot. He is also a great salesperson and he lets me hold all of his money so he won't piss it away, he never wants to buy anything for himself, and he will send off every extra dime that he makes to pay off debt.
So I guess I'll have to wait and see if he follows through with the whole "housewife" plan...But until then, we just might have to live in filth. I don't want to do my half until he does his, because what's the point? A clean kitchen and a filthy bathroom? Orderly bedroom and disgusting living room? This place would still be depressingly dirty and not clean enough to have company, plus, I might be tempted to do it all after I get my half done. I have to stand strong on this, because if I'm already cleaning the whole apartment, cooking, etc, etc, he wouldn't feel like he was getting any benefit from me being a full-time housewife- kind of like when women won't screw a guy until they get married.. and,the fact that it's just plain not fair, and I really don't have the time/ energy.
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