[jaguar]

I'd say it is pretty extreme, you shouldn't really know half of that to start with unless he wanted to tell you. Which I doubt. My parents have practically never known who I was dating except on rare exceptions (special event comes up or it lasts a while), let alone beforehand or any kind of details. I've never known anyone to be quite so worried about the legal implications of getting someone pregnant before. The only people I know that would discuss their private lives in that much detail to their parents are those that have really, really unusually good relationships with them and it'd be more on a friend basis than parent. I doubt the kid is dumb or wants to get someone pregnant and frankly, I doubt she wants to be.

As for exclusivity, what are you going to do if she cheats? Call her parents and complain? What if your boy does? They are young adults, whether your son wants to see someone that is seeing someone else or not should be his choice not yours. If he is getting screwed around you can tell him but really, that's where your responsibility ends. Beyond the getting-people-pregnant thing it really isn't any of your business.

Sometimes it's exclusive from the start, sometimes you date other people as well for a long time, sometimes it's just a fuckaround kind of thing, how he chooses who he spends time with isn't really your affair. What next, you're going to interview his friends? heck lots of kids move into share places at 17, seem to survive and not get anyone pregnant just fine.

Don't let your own crappy experiences mess him around. You seem to be using this whole legal angle as an excuse to moralise your son's love life and protect him from something that really, you can't.

Maybe it's a cultural thing, I don't know.