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staceyv · 03-14-2005, 03:06 PM

I got my husband to hang my towel up

I'm proud of myself for being so creative. I told him that I would hide his keys and cigarettes under it if I found it laying on the couch, and I would let him search the whole damn apartment for them. I didn't even have to really do it, somehow, just the threat seemed to work. He thought my threat was cute, so it was a win-win situation.
I usually hold big, long grudges, but I've decided not to let Undertoad's comments get to me, because they aren't true. He only thinks I'm a control freak because his ex-wife was. It's kind of like if your last boyfriend did drugs, you would probably start accusing more guys of doing drugs- even if they were just tired, hungover, or stressed out, you would probably be envisioning them in the bathroom snorting coke or whatever, this isn't the best example, but you know what I mean...What we experience in life stays with us and is part of our unique filter that we see the world through. So, because UT's ex was a control freak, he sees me trying to get my husband to do something minor and normal like hanging up a towel, and automatically assumes I'm a control freak. Silly, really. Especially since I let my husband pick out the color of my coat- I wanted red, he wanted tan- I got tan, He told me I shouldn't drink because I had a cold, so I didn't, I let him pick out danios for the fishtank even though they look stupid in there with the african cichlids and they'll probably eventually get killed, I worked last night and told him to go ahead and get drunk with his friends as long as he would come pick me up after work, etc. I could go on and on, but what's the point?
One thing I really need to learn is how to not let people's comments get to me, especially when they aren't true, and to stop being so defensive, because as long as I know who I really am, it shouldn't matter what other people think. I'm working on it...

03-14-2005, 03:06 PM	#68
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	I got my husband to hang my towel up I'm proud of myself for being so creative. I told him that I would hide his keys and cigarettes under it if I found it laying on the couch, and I would let him search the whole damn apartment for them. I didn't even have to really do it, somehow, just the threat seemed to work. He thought my threat was cute, so it was a win-win situation. I usually hold big, long grudges, but I've decided not to let Undertoad's comments get to me, because they aren't true. He only thinks I'm a control freak because his ex-wife was. It's kind of like if your last boyfriend did drugs, you would probably start accusing more guys of doing drugs- even if they were just tired, hungover, or stressed out, you would probably be envisioning them in the bathroom snorting coke or whatever, this isn't the best example, but you know what I mean...What we experience in life stays with us and is part of our unique filter that we see the world through. So, because UT's ex was a control freak, he sees me trying to get my husband to do something minor and normal like hanging up a towel, and automatically assumes I'm a control freak. Silly, really. Especially since I let my husband pick out the color of my coat- I wanted red, he wanted tan- I got tan, He told me I shouldn't drink because I had a cold, so I didn't, I let him pick out danios for the fishtank even though they look stupid in there with the african cichlids and they'll probably eventually get killed, I worked last night and told him to go ahead and get drunk with his friends as long as he would come pick me up after work, etc. I could go on and on, but what's the point? One thing I really need to learn is how to not let people's comments get to me, especially when they aren't true, and to stop being so defensive, because as long as I know who I really am, it shouldn't matter what other people think. I'm working on it...