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Catwoman · 03-07-2005, 07:59 AM

limey, the making a pass at a friend's partner thing - this is what I mean about ownership. Why is it wrong to come on to this person? No one else is in control of your actions. And if the partner chooses to reciprocate - that is their choice. Your mate can like it or lump it.

There was this fat old ugly bird in the pub the other night who was flirting with 'my' bloke - stroking his hair and stuff. 1) I can't do anything about it because it's her choice to flirt 2) it's already happening so even if I could do something about it (like slap her) IT'S ALREADY HAPPENING and 3) if he wanted to fuck her there is absolutely nothing I can do about it, whether we are in a relationship or not. Don't you see, it's his choice. And it would be the same the other way round. My choice.

Now, of course I can choose to abide by rules in a relationship. But the minute my true choice contradicts with these rules (and it will) is the moment to change them.

03-07-2005, 07:59 AM	#22
Catwoman stalking a Tom Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: on the edge of the english channel Posts: 1,000	limey, the making a pass at a friend's partner thing - this is what I mean about ownership. Why is it wrong to come on to this person? No one else is in control of your actions. And if the partner chooses to reciprocate - that is their choice. Your mate can like it or lump it. There was this fat old ugly bird in the pub the other night who was flirting with 'my' bloke - stroking his hair and stuff. 1) I can't do anything about it because it's her choice to flirt 2) it's already happening so even if I could do something about it (like slap her) IT'S ALREADY HAPPENING and 3) if he wanted to fuck her there is absolutely nothing I can do about it, whether we are in a relationship or not. Don't you see, it's his choice. And it would be the same the other way round. My choice. Now, of course I can choose to abide by rules in a relationship. But the minute my true choice contradicts with these rules (and it will) is the moment to change them. __________________ I've decided I'm not going to have a signature anymore.