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i understand completely what you are talking about.i was in the same situation for a few years until i was educated a little about child custody.i now have custody of my three children and yesterday i was amazed to see a check for cs in the mail(they had kept her taxes).one of the most important things you can do and most people don't know about:at the county clerk's office in the county you were divorced in,you have a file that you can see that holds everything regarding your divorce and custody issues.they will even give you copies of anything in there for a small fee.any time she won't let you see the kids write a letter and go put it in that file,also you can put copies of the cs receipts that you pay,you can even contest anything she files on you by putting it in writing and having a clerk there witness it and put it in the file.before any kind of hearing is scheduled by the judge,he looks at this file.if you don't do this all the judge can see is a file that seems like you don't even care.you should even write about how much you miss and love your children. i kept at it until the judge finally saw that my ex was playing games and using the children as a tool to get at me.i also found a good lawyer who believed in me,too many nowdays are sell outs.if i can be of any help let me know. oh yeah,one other thing is if they are telling the kids that you are so bad and confusing them,if they are young the dhs in the town you live in can do an investigation.doing that to children is a form of child abuse.but most importantly,tell your kids the truth about what is going on,they will understand more than you think they do.
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