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youts
I always try to respect other folks decisions especially when it comes to something as important as child rearing. I'm just glad there are people out there thinking seriously about their capacity or desire to raise kids. That level of maturity or self knowlege is something we all hope is as common among "breeders" as it is among the child free. Maggie makes a very good point about age, at some point you just don't have the energy to commit to kids and you are doing them and yourself a disservice. Thats gonna change from parent to parent, however, and knowlege of self is all important. My wife and I are suited to the child rearing lifestyle because we both like permanent situations, she because of her parents divorce and me cuz I like to take it slow and steady.
There is no one way to raise kids, we're going the focus on home route that others might not go for. One of my brothers buddies has a son who is probably around eight now and has lived in three or four countries. The home life remains steady only the background changes. Kids are wonderfully adaptable as long as the parent is responsible. A friend of mine quit his life as a lobsterman and moved his wife and kids into town, after living on an isolated island for many years. The kids know Mom and Dad are committed so the move while a huge change, hasn't been rough. I'm kinda rambling here so I'll just shut up until I think of something of value. nice thread
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