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Originally Posted by Brianna
Anything else this Shiksa should know???
He's not been exactly forthcoming with all this shit...  |
I guess it all depends upon how observant your sweetie is -- he might not be telling you about all this other stuff because he isn't aware of it himself, or it isn't important to him. The biggie to look out for, though, is, will he want/need to raise the kids as Jews? If you agreed, this wouldn't necessarily require your conversion, but some branches would then require the
children to convert (orthodox and some conservative congregations).
If you don't convert, but you raise the kids Jewish, the hardest part will be if they have a Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremony (not required, but customary, at least in the US) -- and you are not allowed to be up there with them at the Torah because you are not Jewish. (Many congregations in the US allow this, but in some modified way.)
I belong to a congregation with a high percentage of mixed marriages, not to mention a fair sampling of non-traditional households. In most of the US, you can find a congregation that is willing to meet your family as it comes. Good luck!