[OnyxCougar]

Originally Posted by wolf

Oh, so what your friend is planning is ... "Well, it's inconvenient for me to have any part in raising my child at this time, so he can stay with his dad, but when I feel like I'm "ready" I can walk in and demand possession of him any time I want." Shame of it is that the courts may well agree with such a thing, since being the mommy is 9/10 of the custody law.

No, not anytime she wants. But she certainly can't do it right now. She knows this.

Yeah. It's criticism. Flat out. Unconstructive, if the meaning of that word is "doesn't solve the problem to my girlfriend's satisfaction."

Well criticism isn't the reason I posted. I posted to try to get some ideas on how to make a bad situation better.

And I'm not working from any illusions regarding dad's effectiveness as a parent at this point. He is, however, there. Any opinions you have of him are colored by your prior relationship.

No, it's colored by the fact I lived with the man and know how he parents.

Look, no one is diputing she made a mistake. I posted her for advise, not a bunch of people telling me how much she fucked up. Thanks. We got that part. We know. She fucked up. Thanks. That sure helps alot. Appreciate that.