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Originally posted by Yelof
Sex and Friends don't mix, get out of there, your friendship with him (and possibly her) died the minute you slept with him.
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Do you really think that's true? Do you think I've lost everything already? If so there's no point me hanging on... I just keep thinking, give it time, he'll come round, he'll see, we'll make it together. Hope. So futile. I know how stupid I sound.
I can't accept grief. I know it's self-destructive, but continuing the situation means I do not have to accept the loss. Denial is so powerful. It would feel like giving up if I left, like I'd missed the most important opportunity in my life. Something inside me STILL thinks there is a chance he cares. What is wrong with me, why can't I see it for what it is? That glimmer of hope... when giving advice to someone else I would always say 'don't give up hope, it's the most important thing we have'. But when a situation is just so hopeless? Is there any point having hope. It's like I don't want to stop my feelings for him in case he changes his mind, and then it would be too late.
Your best friend... even if you had never slept with her, you would still have those unresolved feelings for her. Wouldn't that have been equally as destructive? I think the minute feelings get involved, not sex, is when all the problems start.
What a mess. Should I tell him how I feel?