Beestie you are much more eloquent than I this afternoon.
I agree with everything you've said, but my questions is, 'why do we have expectations to start with?' and 'where does the desire to fix come from' i.e. why are we not happy when expectation and reality does
not match? Is it instinctual to have reality align with a preconcecived perception of reality? I guess this is how we make sense of the world. But why can sense not be contradictory? Am I making any sense? This is quite a complicated question and I fear I do not have the ability to explain it with the clarity it deserves.