ethical question
 

If you and your spouse share the same doctor and your spouse is not addressing a significant health issue they have is it ethical for you to tell the doctor and ask that he or she bring up the issue with spouse?

I'd do it.

I'd do it too, but the ethics are all on the Doctor. Whether he/she is able to address it is another issue.

Yeppers , tough Nerts if it pisses off Spouse , you care enough to say some thing , they will get over it

That's what spouses are supposed to do, take care of each other when the other one is being too pigheaded to take care of themselves.

I think it would depend on the nature of the problem and the possible ramifications of not dealing with it.

Yes, that's your job.

No. i wouldn't. But I'd make damn sure he went himself.
If it was the only way left, yes, I might, but that just isn't our relationship.

Any couple going to go to the same doctor does so knowing that health histories and concerns are overlapping; so, there's no reasonable expectation of privacy between the spouses. That constitutes implied consent for the release of information about each other. For privacy, spouses should be going to separate doctors.

The physician; however, should not divulge any information about one spouse to the other without express consent. If you divulge something about your spouse to the physician, do not expect the physician to follow up with you (not even as to whether or not the matter was brought up with your spouse) without your spouse's express consent.

To avoid resentment and mistrust between spouses, I recommend telling your spouse that you're going to divulge such information to your shared doctor so your spouse has the opportunity to change doctors. If you don't give your spouse that opportunity and your actions are discovered, it may be construed as a betrayal. Your spouse may change doctors afterwards anyway and information you divulged to your shared doctor may be rendered moot. You could end up back where you began only with a diminished relationship.

There's a good chance your spouse won't find it worth the trouble to change doctors thus enabling you to prevail on the up and up.

Being married or just living together is a relationship based on trust.

If your health becomes an issue that you need to hide from your partner, you break the trust.

If you share the same doctor, my opinion is that the doctor should treat the two people as one entity.

If you don't like your spouse, best to let the disease take its course, but make sure you have plenty of life insurance on them.

If you like your spouse, I suppose you'd kick them in the ass until they got themselves evaluated.

Sneaky is too sneaky.

My mother would make an appointment for Pop, and go with him to make sure everything pertinent was discussed.

I would talk to the doctor. After all, I have no oath to prohibit me from talking about it, and if the doc has no prior knowledge, then there's no reason they can't discuss it with you, especially in the context that it affects your health in a round about sort of way.

BTW: Nice to see you posting Bruce. :)

What about that whole "in sickness and in health" thing? You're trying to get out of the first part.

I agree.

Wanting your spouse not to be sick doesn't mean you don't love them if they are.