Holy Smoke Wife Perma-banned her mom today!
 

Yikes. Today my wife perma-banned her mom and told her to get out of our house, cutting her visit short by 2 days.

The final straw, as it were. Details possibly to follow. Long and complicated intro which would require some one with Clodfobble's summarization skills to make readable.

Wow...for a mum to get banned, she must have been pretty annoying.

I hope it's all for the best.

Wow. Just wow. You can do that?

rough man, gotta love family.

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I am at a loss for words. How do you do that? Perma-ban a mother. Must have been a fairly severe infraction of the rules. Did she find those pictures?

O.o wow...

heh, my mom doesn't know about her third grandchild.......

Good on your missus, I say. It's a tough call to make but sometimes it's necessary.

My big sis is Perma Banned from our life ,
Cold Hard thing to do But nessary for Sanity

I guess there are lots of reasons for these, ummm bannings, but families are people too. I just can't imagine banning a sibling or parent from either family. There are some that I get along with better than others but, eh, they are still family.

We're still both pretty freaked but relieved. It was a culmination of a long long history of progressively worse craziness, imagined events, boundary issues, passive aggressive behavior, inappropriate actions, and general untreated PTSD and other things.

A mutual friend suspects early onset dementia, which may be possible, maybe she's just headed for a nervous breakdown.

Things are not good at the moment, she launched her attack 30 minutes before the inch's birthday party was to start and that sealed the deal for my wife.

Surprise doesn't come close to what I felt. After 38 years of her defending her mother's insanity as being appropriate to any one who questioned it, I guess she finally had enough.

So what? If they make you and/or yours miserable, pop 'em like a zit.

I didn't talk to my Dad for a couple of years at one stage, but I'm glad we're good now. Like foot3's situation, it was because of a culmination of events and actions and deeds that led to me just not picking up the phone anymore and since my dad doesn't usually do the phoning, we just didn't talk and i didn't bother going to see him.

I think the time apart was good. In a way it served its purpose because I discovered that I could in fact be perfectly happy without my Dad in my life, but in the end, I realised that he is very important to me, and sometimes you just have to let some things fly. That being said, some things also need to be taken note of. No one deserves to be treated badly. I think my Dad realised that he'd pushed the limits just a bit too much at the time, but it was a difficult time for all of us. I'm glad things are better now.

I hope your situation can have a positive outcome in the end too foot3. I'm sure your wife is carrying a certain amount of guilt over her decision. No doubt you'll support her no matter what the outcome.

Good luck to you all.

In general some degree of family connection is a good thing, but there are times when you have to make an exception. I have a step-mother who has qualified. But, wow, banning your mother, she must have really really pissed off Mrs Foot.

I haven't spoken to my mother in over 12 years. A combination of things, allowing my stepfather to molest me for 3 years, siding with my abusive ex husband, and treating me like an atm finally got to be too much in my mid-thirties.

Wow. I am semi-banning my own mother from my life. Good for Mrs. foot!