I'm *staying* married!
 

I am married.

I have been married for over 16 years. I am looking forward to the next 16 with great antici














PATION!

My wife and I have recently been through some *extremely* difficult events. Our marriage was in dire peril. Things were said, papers were filed, people had moved... It represented the very darkest time in my life. There are threads and posts here that stand in testament to the grief and confusion and pain I experienced. Tips of icebergs hinting at the enormous cold menace below the surface of the impenetrably black freezing waters. And my wife's icebergs, just as heavy and just as dangerous, never even showed up here.

Now I have the great pleasure and good fortune to announce that we have traveled to safer, sunnier, warmer waters! We have steered the marital barque away from the shoals of divorce (and destruction and damnation) out to the open waters of domestic felicity. Well, we're not there yet, but we're headed in that direction. Thank god.

There is good honest work ahead of us, work I'm looking forward to. And some learning, and some rules. One rule for me is no more flirting. Sorry ladies, I'm taken. Very happily so. Besotted would be appropriate. So your pictures have been burned, your letters have been shredded, and that other... thing ... has been put in the giveaway box (just kidding honey! :sweat: ). Not that I don't appreciate the thought, but no thanks. I have all the woman I can handle, and she has no competition, here or anywhere.

We'll be working on *us* together, and I can't imagine a better pairing. She is beautiful, smart, and strong. She loves our children completely, and defends them fiercely against all comers. She is funny and talented and sexy as hell.

In fact, I have another happy news item, she's gonna start showing up here. Here amongst my friends, plunging courageously into the thick of the very environment that bothers her. She hasn't begun posting yet, but she did agree to let me post a nice picture of her and SonofV in their Halloween finest.

I'm happy! She's happy ("I feel like a newlywed!") SonofV is happy. Please, all my friends, share in our happiness. :jig:

That's great news V! And I don't care if you're not flirting. I just think you're a top bloke.

Maybe you should introduce your wife to the cellar? She might enjoy getting to know some of us too.

Good luck with getting the marriage back on track. I really admire you both for taking this step...for yourselves and for your kids. :)

Glad to hear it, V!

you only need to have two rules. and you both need to agree.

1. You'll never leave her.

2. You'll never kill her.

that sews it up pretty tight. the rest is just getting along as best you can.

If she demands that you leave us for her....do it. and then log in as a new screen name and never mention it to her again. we can keep a secret.

Nice pic. She's really beautiful V. No wonder you're so happy. ;)

What's her handle going to be anyway? We can't keep on calling her...ummm...her can we? lol

I will let her post her handle herself. If she wishes to lurk, fine. She's here. I'm happy. She'll be around.

In the meantime I guess you can't really call her SWMBO, like I do, or My Queen, or any of those other ones.... ... She'll get to it. She's worth waiting for.

:)

Fantastic, congratulations! :thumb:

V, that's wonderful news! I'm so happy for you. Congrats to both you and your wife, and may you have many years of learning and loving together.

That's great news! Wow. I've been worried about you... so I'm really glad to hear things are going better.

That is awesome BigV. I hope things continue to improve for you both!!

Thank Fucking Goodness.

Mrs V, welcome.

fantistical news for you and your lovely family! welcome to the newb lurker and remember to "always eat your cereal with a fork and do your homework in the dark."

Good luck with everything, V.

BigV that's the best news I've heard all week mate :)

And if MrsV is reading this, then Welcome! We'd all love to meet you.

purty lady. nice rack, too.

oh yeah, and good for you both working through it, not giving up.