tests for potential relationships
 

ok, everyone has certain tests for potential partners... the crux point where you are trying to figure out if this person is good for the long term.

what are yours?

i'll start - as i've receantly learned a new one:

test: a few good dates in when things are more open and comfortable, find a context by which to ask if she has done mistakes in how she treated her partners in previous relationships.

what's the answer i'm looking for: yes i have.

why: unless they never had any relationships, everyone has done so at some point, and if there's anything i learned from my last painful relationship is that if someone can't admit to it and has to be rightous all the time, they will be right as they go on wronging you. the capacity for people to judge their own action is critical for both growing and adapting to others, and i'm not going with someone who doesn't have that capacity ever again (well, if i am honest with myself i should add "unless she's too hot for my brain to work").

Name the Monkees, read (especially science fiction), match caliber.

Cycling, camping, and hiking in "bad" weather. If we're still having fun, it is a go. Year 21 coming up.

I think really, there's no 'test' that will work. Some couples seemingly have everything going for them and then it doesn't work. Others seem like they're permanently on the cusp of breakup, but somehow stay strong for decades.

Can't measure and quantify it that much I don't think.

Still...once you've experienced one of those breakpoints it can show up some potential dangers to watch for in future.

dana - you might be right, but right now i am on the cautious side.

awosme idea.

also: find something you disagree about which is important to you.

politics, religion, hell when she whines about how her mother dispresects her see if you can take her mother's side just for the sake of it.

if you can talk about stuff you disagree about without an all out war and without someone ending up backpadeling just to make the other person happy, then that has to be a good sign.

.357!? I'm not cutting off .143 for anyone!:apistola:

Match caliber? Are you talking strike anywhere or book matches?

:bolt:

Im with Griff on this one ,
All so ,And ,or , ( hey i just woke up and im on pain meds )
if you and the potential sig other can canoe together ,
fun boozy day trip with mutual friends ,
then over nighter , camping on the river
and still have fun , well then you 2 have a good chance of makeing it
My wife and i are gonig on 24 years

Do you spit out your car window?

You do? How very honest of you. However, I won't date you. ;)

I don't believe in 'testing' people. It's deceitful. As interactions develop, they're either on your wavelength or not. People can 'say' anything, anyway...especially in the beginning when they're trying to demonstrate how perfect they are. This is why I come out of the gate as crappy as I always am. I can't keep up the I'm so perfect ruse for very long. :lol:

Mickey Dolenz, Peter Tork, Davy Jones, Mike Nesmith

big sci fi geek

I was good until the 3rd question. alas, wolf... we would never make it. I own no firearms.

Y'know, I must check with Ma, but I have a vague memory of her telling me she'd either had a date with him, or been asked out by Davy Jones. Unless it was our Stella. One of them anyway. Before he was in the Monkeys.

Are you willing to learn?;)

.38, .39 whatever it takes...