Guys: Anal Stimulation, yes or no?
 

This poll is by request of Brianna on The Sex Thread.

So here it comes guys: do you like anal stimulation? If you do, do you like being: licked (referred to as a "tossed salad") or penetrated? And if penetrated, by a toy or flesh?

If a girl wants to lick my asshole that is up to her. Doesn't do much for me though.

For the record, having your anus licked is called "rimming." Having one's salad tossed requires actual salad dressing or another condiment to be involved.

My husband wouldn't let me near it even if I wanted to, which I don't.

REALLY?! Well. That saves me a LOT of embarrassment right there! and, um, what would be the BEST dressing? Ranch? Bleu cheese?

Hell if I know. I just used to have a gay roommate who enjoyed explaining to me the finer points of kinkiness.

Eh, well I stand corrected. I always thought rimming and tossing the salad were synonymous.

Correction: a Google define: search returns that it is indeed synonymous:

But that's also from Wikipedia. I guess everyone has their own definitions.

That's the thing about slang (and all words, really): if enough people start to use it as synonymous with rimming, then eventually that will be what the word means. Maybe we've even already hit that point as wiki indicates, I have no idea. But I know that 5 years ago, my roommate and his boyfriend would have been very disappointed had you suggested one and then performed the other. :)

Though I prefer zero anal stimulation, the past 2 years have been a new experience for me.

An M16 barrel, combat boots of various armies, and a multitude of..... ah....electrical components have been introduced to my caboose.

Are they stimulating? Not in the way that you are referring, no.

When I am released my book will be published and you can all sympathize for the ol' fuzzy dictator, Saddam.

You'll have to talk to my new CIA friends about the photos of these intrusions though. You thought that Lindy pointing to one of my soldier's dick was bad?

Just imagine same assbag cramming an electrode up my ass posing for the camera. He had a W Bush mask on too.

How humiliating.

Ha! You guys are cowards. You vote but don't comment.

Never did it, thought about it.

I can't stand suppositories for nausea, much less something larger. One girl has tried to stick a finger in there, and she got a bunch of dolphin noises and a nearly broken finger for her trouble.

/I can clench real hard when startled

You forgot to mention your own head. Or maybe you did and we just couldn't hear you.

Ahh, no, but [rimshot [double rimshot]]thanks, really.

When I first became aware that this concept even existed, Angie, my date, in high school, kinda freaked me out at the suggestion of "rimjob". I had to have it explained to me. I don't know if she was just yanking my chain to see how shocked I'd be, or if I really missed my cue to a whole different world of kink. Regardless, the subject hasn't come up again outside the context of a prostate exam. And I am fine with that status quo.

i feel gay just reading this thread. i'm not even going to vote. yuck

Ok. But what about all the guys I've known who were NOT gay and really, really wanted to butt-Eff ME????? HUH? that's not sorta gay????? Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

they only wanted to do it because they thought you'd like it. not gay. you ARE a girl.

Eh, I'm kind of torn on this. What I *think* about it falls squarely into line with LJ. My girlfriend has on occasion taken a 'stab' at it. It's extremely uncomfortable, but simultaneously... thrilling. I wouldn't ask for it. I don't particularly like it. But what I do like is that my girlfriend is into me enough and trusts me enough to occasionally try something different. She keeps things interesting. :D

I really think there's nothing gay about it. There are many definitions of the word 'gay' (or homosexual), but the one that stands out is: "having a sexual attraction to someone of the same sex". Now for me, that means I'm not gay. See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay

I've had sex with a guy before, and it didn't do anything for me. I also don't want to date guys.

To all the guys who don't like it:

the pentration, as I'm sure is the same with women who take it up there, takes some getting used to.

veryveryvery brave of you to tell us that. it begs the question, however, that if you're not gay, why DID you have sex with a man?

you must have felt at least a little gay at that time? just curious? he was really really cute? many people would still call you gay. i believe you when you say you're NOT gay, but when you combine this with your anal predeliction.....?

personal question: when you had sex with a man, were you the pitcher or the catcher? ew.

Women who sleep with another woman but never go on to form a lesbian relationship are usually considered experimental...... Isn't this the same? (Could quite literally be a case of suck it & see)?!

I was the receiver. :lol:

I was curious. But, it didn't feel good at all. I know many people would still call me gay, that's why I keep my sex life (both experimental and regular) from those who would be quick to judge me/call me names.

Maybe so. I tried that too, didn't do anything for me, either. But it did turn my wife on watching. I enjoy muff diving a lot more so, especially a clean shaven one.

There's a big double standard wrt "gay" and "experimental".

As a man, I find homosexuality neutral. I don't dig it and I don't despise it. I figure the homosexual men around me (in my city, in my country) and I are fishing in entirely different pools so there's no conflict. I'm not interested in them, and they're not interested in me.

lj, your remark about feeling gay even reading this thread...I don't find the subject matter personally stimulating, titillating, so to speak. But it was an interesting topic, certainly one that I am highly unlikely to discuss or experience anywhere else, so I followed along. Reading it absolutely doesn't make me "gay" or make me "feel gay".

I think labels are useful when kept in their narrow contexts, as pointers to more information, not as substitutes for reality. I voted for Ronald Reagan, but I am definitely not a Republican. Was I experimenting? Ok, ok, maybe that's not a really good analogy, but there's a difference in what people are and what people have done.

They thought I'd LIKE it??? And, why would they think that? I wasn't the one going, "Oh, come on, baby, you'll like it once you try it--I'll be gentle, I promise, baby..." #1) I never did like it, and, #2) "gentle" and "anal penetration" are counter-intuitive. (and I don't mean finger, either)

Brianna,

it's more of an acquired taste. Plus, it also helps if you have plenty of good lubrication and maybe even a numbing agent (for those first-timers)

you don't know me well enough by now to tell when I'm serious?

You've answered your own question.

lj, I did sense a serious tone, and I tried to respect that with a serious tone of my own.

What are you saying? I didn't challenge any of your remarks, I only referred to them as the trigger for my own thoughts. My whole post could stand on it's own, without quoting you. I referenced your words only as a matter of conversation. I meant to express my thoughts on the subject at hand, "gay-ness", not yours.

eh, yer just pissed cuz i blah blah blahed you.
and i'll thank you to not refer to my gayness. thank you......for not referring to my gayness.

Hee hee

I voted in the poll, but haven't commented yet. The idea of anal stimulation during sex is not appealing to me. I've had doctor's fingers up there a few times, and it's uncomfortable, bordering on painful. I can't imagine it being anything remotely close to being pleasurable, even when done by the woman I love. Even with no penetration, I would be nervous. It's a private area, and I don't want anyone getting close.

Just the other day, I was reading this (which is worth a read) on Smoking Gun, and I was a little shocked when I got to the part about anal stimulation during a massage. I felt a little tense just reading that part. I can't imagine something worse than getting a nice massage and then a startling probe down there.

Not in a million years.

IMO if you feel compelled to do the unnatural to keep your sex life interesting, maybe you should try a new partner.

Fecal material should be disposed of...... not toyed with. (IMO)

Who said anything about fecal matter? I sure as hell didn't, nor is anything mentioning that in the poll or any of these posts.

wow, I learn a lot at the cellar. I guess I never thought straight men would want anal penetration....not that I myself would ever want to go messing down there anyway. :fart:

That's the problem with a tag line like yours, julie. You tell people you like to know stuff, they start letting you in on things you may not have anticipated.

true that elsp!

Just reminded me of a story. I met this gay guy at work a while ago, we became friends and then ended up having wild, crazy sex. Well, thats not true. Heres the real story.

He told me that some of his gay friends were into shitting on a clear plate that the partner holds over his head while laying on the floor. Now thats the true story. :turd:

I actually overheard this in high school one day. This one girl (preppy) was talking to some other girls about it. But, I don't want to stray off-topic, if you want to talk about that start a new thread please.

Actually, no, I don't. I'm afraid you would beat the crap out of me with a tire iron. I'm sorry I didn't tell you I was not female at birth on the first date, but I chickened out. :blush:

Thats all I needed to say about that topic - but am curious why you pointed out the girl was preppy? yes this is also off topic, but do tell.

"Preppy", for the most part, is being hip, cool, mainstream, whatever. Watching through glass someone take a dump doesn't exactly strike you as mainstream, does it?

Seeing as how I am not a man, I can't say for the guys. But all of my boyfriends have turned out to like the stimulation, a few actually claiming to be bi. I just thought that most guys liked it and would not admit it. :turd:

I am certainly not a fan. I have a perfectly good orifice right there, why do you gotta go and try and use the wrong one? Is this just me? Girls?

I totally agree. I like the penis-vagina thing, I have no desire to fuck an anus. I mean, females are built for this already, isn't that what a vagina does best?

Some of my daughter's boyfriends claimed to be Bi. It didn't matter to her. Actually, two of her friends that are guys got her to put on black nail polish on them and when I saw them they said to me, she did it! I think it is more acceptable now among teens for boys to explore their options.

I didn't tell these two guys that I had asked her to put black nail polish on my nails a few months earlier, and neither did she. I don't thinks it's cool to have a dad that explores his options. :D

Right! So, why do a whole lot of men want to fuck a woman there?? I've run into a bunch who want to do it. It can't be that I run into these guys and nobody else does? What is with that? If a man hadn't done it he wanted to, and if he had done it he wanted to do it again!

So much innuendo; so little time...

I chose a female doctor mainly because of hand size. 'Nuf said.

y'know, itsjulie, your signature? It's called "your" signature for a reason, it's, well, yours. Even a Hungry Mind like myself has limits, standards about what I consume. What's that? Limit? Ah, look over your shoulder. Yeah. That's it back there a bit, it was that bump we crossed over a couple of posts ago. Yeah. There for a reason. Sure, no problem. Thanks. Cool. Look forward to your future posts. Right. Bye for now.


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I have run into the same guys. One of them convinced me to do it once, but never again!!!! I don't like to bleed and it didn't feel good anyway. :thepain2: So at least now I can say "yes, I tried it, didn't like it in the slightest, I even bled. So drop the subject" when a guy tries to tell me I won't know until I tried it. Why are they so obsessed? Am I meeting the wrong guys? It is really frustrating, I know how you feel Bri.

:vomit: :rar:

what the hell crawled up your ass? ;) :lol:

it was me. shhhh!

I think you pegged his "gack" meter

Not like you couldn't expect it in the"anal stimulation" thread!!!!! The topic wasn't what brand of laundry detergent do you use? :right:

I really don't mean to get off topic, I think this is actually pretty much on this same topic.....some of you may know much more about this than I do...but I know a couple who had been married less than a year when the guy was in an accident and became paralyzed from the waist down. From what I understand (second hand info from family members), they went to a sort of rehab place in Colorado to learn how to have sex, since his condidtion no longer allowed the "normal" way. From what I understood, it involved - I think - her having to stimulate him on his "G spot", up about an inch inside his anus, which resulted in him getting an erection.
Whatever it is they do, it works - they now have two kids!

so BOB are you going to PUNT or get PEGGED tonite ??????

tried the "finger thing" before. it doesn't do a lot for me, mainly because it's a difficult thing to get comfortable with. a girl who knows what she's doing *can* directly stimulate you that way, as we all know, and it can be pretty intense. i can think of one instance of some oral interaction (the regular kind) in combination with this where it was pretty amazing. i think my eyes went crossed for a bit. but yeah, it's hard to be comfortable with.

ladies, many guys will say they're interested in this, whether the know that they like it or not, just because it's a wrong or dirty thing to do. it's just a novelty. i've had it often enough through dating someone that was into it that i know that i prefer vaginal intercourse. also, this is definitely something you have to work your way up to i.e. "finger work" for several sessions first to loosen things up and get comfortable with the idea. a guy should never just jump in and go crazy. even if you're practiced that's a bad idea since it's not built for that kind of umm.........punishment? i think if more guys knew how to approach it, more women might find out they enjoy it and be open to the idea. dunno.