help!-my husband wants to wear these clothes
 

This clothing is from an 88 year old man who recently passed away. My husband works with his grandson who gave him these clothes. My husband liked these clothes and wanted to wear them. I was able to talk him out of all but two items, which he refuses to donate to the Salvation Army. The fact that he initially thought they were all nice really scares me. Maybe I'm too snobby? Share your thoughts, please. What if YOUR man wanted to wear this stuff??? And please, don't give me crap about about being a control freak- I don't want people pointing and laughing at my husband when he walks down the street, for Christ's sake.

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I'm having trouble attaching two pictures- it says "attachment in progress" but when I submit my post, there's no picture...If I figure it out, I'll post the last two. These should give you a pretty good idea of what we're dealing with here, though.

I resized it and it's working :) This is actually the last one- and this coat is one he's keeping. He really likes it. He's keeping the previous one, too.

You know, I kind of feel bad about making fun of this dead old man's clothes. I mean, I know they would look really nice on a cute old man and I don't mean to disrespect him. I just don't think they would look right on a 24 year old man, and I feel kind of weird about having these clothes in my home because their owner passed away.

ouch. I feel your pain- my finance has the *worst* taste in clothing, and almost always wears these olive green shorts he's had for probably 10 years (complete with patches of various material used to plug up the gaping holes), a t-shirt, and short-sleeved button-up. With velcro tennis shoes. Gray velcro tennis shoes. The ensemble, when taken in all at once, is quite heinous. But he refuses to accept my input, insisting that he looks fine. I guess I just feel like I should pick my battles. He rarely wears the Frankenstein shorts outside our home, and I just don't want him to feel like I don't love him the way he is, which I do. One of these days he'll grow up and decide he needs some big boy clothes.... I hope.

stacy, just bag up the clothes when he's not there and take them to the goodwill or something. That's what I'd do. Last year, my husband wore a bright yellow t-shirt under a teal and blue plaid flannel shirt. From that point on, I have to approve his daily clothing choices.

thanks. It feels good to know I'm not alone:) I just hope he doesn't get mad at me if they disappear!

You are looking at these clothes like an American wife who doesn't want her husband to look like a dork. To a Russian Emigre', this stuff is probably as cool as shit.

Don't sweat it. It's impossible to graft a fashion sense onto men. Just doesn't happen. You should be grateful that he doesn't wear the jeans with the holes over his balls.

This is exactly why I always wear khakis and Oxford or other button-down shirts (with occasional jeans and t-shirts). It's adequate for almost any occasion that doesn't demand a suit and prevents me from having to make awkward fashion decisions that I'd probably fuck up anyway.

I'm more of a fashion glacier than a fashion catastrophe. I wear the same thing every day. Levi's jeans, black Hane's t-shirt, black combat/work boots. That's it unless I have to be somewhere special.

I love the sweater in the first pic and the jackets in the second. I actually see people at my school(University at Albany) wearing stuff like those jackets. Some of the other stuff is pretty g-hey.

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hey, i actually like the jackets in shot # 2. if they were a less cheerful color they would be perfect.

:lol2: thank you for the lighter fluid- oh my god, I almost died laughing.
those jackets you guys liked- what is that, some kind of retro fashion?
I still don't think he could pull it off...thanks so much (again)for the laugh!

Stacey,

How did you attach the pictures I'm having trouble with that.

Ok we guys all have clothes we feel comfortable in, also we tend to buy individual items and not outfits. This is suppported by your guy picking out certain peices. For gardening or working on the car OK. Unless he's into a new grunge thing I no nothing about. hey, you're not in Seattle are you?

Maybe go window shopping at a outdoor/sporting store and see if you can find a displayed "essemble" with khaki shorts, T shirt, sweater etc and buy the whole lot.

Also before complaining about hubby remember you chose him............

Lah, lah, lah

one of the jobs i had was in a factory. i found an old janitor's jacket in my closet there. the name on it said "javier" i wore that jacket for two years. it just fit right, what can i say?

I liked that last jacket...I think he could make it work with the right hat or something. don't let him wear jeans with it, though.

I think I am the only female here with worse fashion sense than my mate. That says little for him, as his favorite shirt has had the sleeves cut off. I guess I am proud of my bad fashion sense, like Devo might be of their lesser known songs in the 80s.

Damn! and I thought Arsen was going to turn out to be a cross-dresser! :mg:

Did you remember that the majority of men are color blind to some extent if not totally? It's true, check the statistics. Your husband might not be able to see those clothes any better than a Golden Retriever could. My dad used to hold up the shirt and tie and jacket every morning so that momma could tell him if they matched. Your husband may honestly not realize what he would really look like, especially to WOMEN, who rarely have the same problem with colors. But as far as the style of the clothing, I would suggest that you just let him wear what he wants. Make a deal with him that YOU choose his outfit if you will be out socially together and just let him go the rest of the time. In the long run, by not nagging him you will earn points which you can call in when YOU want to buy something he does not care for ;)

Ugh. I feel for you, girl, but was going to post what wolf already has. My girlfriend Kelle is coming home this month, but her man, Hrvoje, who is Croatian, would LOVE that stuff. She would burn it. I think it's a cultural thing. The members only jackets? Oh man.....

Seen stuff like that go for hundreds of pounds here, yes.

Yeah, I like them. Well, I use 'like' as in, 'I like them more than squid'. Only because they're unconventional though. Nice to see a young man dressed differently to the masses, would make me want to talk to him.

Would make me think he's single, because no woman with taste would be seen with him wearing that crap.

Stacey. Dude.

those clothes rock. the ones in the first shot are kind of eastern bloc, but the rest are cool. You have to have a certain level of...something. Rock? .... to be able to pull off that stuff, but it can definitely be done.

To pull off a lemon yellow or powder blue Members Only jacket??? Yeah, you'd need rocks...

I love those jackets too. When I saw them, I thought, wow, that's not little old man wear, those are pretty hip.

hey, you want to buy them then? I'll sell 'em cheap:)

Try ebay. chaching!!!

I thought about ebay, but I've been reading a book on how to sell on ebay, and it says that used clothing is considered a "questionable" item to sell, but not completely banned. Maybe if I call it "vintage clothing" it'll be okay to sell?
But I'd have to pay $5 a month to accept payments to my pay pal account and who knows if I would make that on this ugly stuff!

PLUS, I got into a car accident this morning turning out of the post office, and now I never want to go to the post office again. It's a really tough left hand turn coming out of there, I didn't even see this guy at all, and I just heard a big crash. My car's all fucked up, my stomach's a mess, and now I have to dish out money to repair this guy's car. ALL because I'm selling these books on Amazon and I'm always at the damn post office.
(yeah, I know, you can arrange to have it picked up or print out labels...I have to look into that later.) Right now I'm trying to take my mind off of these chest pains I'm having and I can't stop burping. My digestive system is shot.

OMG! I'm glad you're ok..... and I always ship stuff at the local mom and pop shipping place, just because it's less hassle the the post office.

Thanks for caring :) I don't know if we have a mom and pop place around here, I'll have to look into that. I really am not going back to that particular post office.

look what I found on ebay! (0 bids:()

Well there you go. There's a whole section of "vintage" and "retro" clothes. Hey, $8 is more than nothin, aye?

Your book could NOT be more incorrect.

Yeah, I sold new and used childrens clothing on ebay for a couple of years and did pretty well with it, you just really have to know your product. "Questionable" would be used, unwashed socks (with a picture of the feet that wore them) or something like that.

people used to try and sell their grimy underwear for fetishists on ebay, so they had to crack down :lol: on that. The rest of it is all good.

You could have a goldmine there, Stacy. If you can't possibly accept having these items around, call it vintage/retro, make sure it has been drycleaned, and go for it on Ebay! The market is also at retro or costume stores in the larger cities, or call the nearest theater troup and ask them if they need retro clothing for their wardrobe. When my aunts died, that is what we did with all the tailored wool suits and coats from the 50's which they had saved.