A case of mistaken orientation
 

For the Straight people:
Have you ever been "hit on" by a gay person? What did you do?

For Gay people:
I'm sure you've been hit on by the opposite sex. What do you do?

Yes. A guy at the ATM complimented my hair several times. I asked him if he was waiting for something, he asked if I was straight, and I said yes. He apologized and left.

My wife tells me I'm the least observant person she knows.

And since I can't tell when I'm hit on by women, I've no idea if I've been hit on by a guy or not. I do know I've run into some that are just too friendly.

or is this too touchy a subject?

When I was a salesman, I took a test drive with a 40-45 yr old guy who was very complimentary to me about my looks. It made my skin crawl. I don;t think he actually hit on me, but he was definatley testing the water. I made sure to mention my wife several times.

When I was a waiter at Denny's, I had a steven segal type pony tail, and I had several offers from guys named Ramone. whook!

maybe I'm a homophobe. jinx says I am. I dunno, I'm not scared of gay people, but I am a little insensitive toward them at times.......

I was once invited to play for the other team. I said, "No, but thanks" and that was the end of that.

We still go drinking every couple of months...

- Pie

A corollary to this thread is "Do people mistake you for gay?"

I have this experience because I'm sensitive, eloquent, and I take care of my appearances. Also I have a background in creative arts.

*goes over to stand by OnyxCougar in the mum section* :3eye:

*will now dedicate his life to finding out what cougar and elf AREN'T telling us* :)

I've never been hit on by a guy. I think that, for some reason, I project this massive hetero wave or something. I know *lots* of gay people, many of them close friends, so I know I don't radiate homophobic vibes (don't really have any of which I'm aware...my father was bi, and we had lots of female impersonators around the house when I was growing up).

I am, however, also utterly unaware when women are flirting with me. I just figure it is completely impossible, so I don't notice it. Mrs. Elspode, on the other hand, has pointed out to me a few such incidents which she observed as being particularly flagrant on the part of other women, so I guess it does happen, if her judgement is to be believed.

I dunno. I'm not much to look at, I don't have money, I dress poorly, I'm rather aged and coarse, so what's to like?

To my knowledge, I've never been hit on by anybody.

But it's possible I'm as clueless as Elspode and blue58.

HA, I used to work with a gay guy, he was really cool but everybody pussyfooted around the issue. So my co-workers threw me a birthday bash one night, I'm actually doing shots (I never drink liqour), so I'm all like "let's straighten this shit out right now", "Scott, you're gay right?"....and he says, Yeah...dude, when you hired me I had orange hair for gods sake, I figured everybody knew".

Except for me, Mr. Observant. Anyhoo, it was all cool after that and everyone lightened up a LOT now that it was out in the open, used to test out gay jokes on him...he cracked up when he found out we referred to the Vikings stadium as the Homodome.

oh christ. your somebody's boss?

Yeah, so am I. Scary, ain't it??? :worried:

I get hit on by guys more often than I do by girls. I dunno why. The first time it happened I thought the guy was trying to sell me drugs. I couldn't get him to tell me what it was he was trying to sell. When the light switched on, I was completely at a loss for words. Umm. Thanks. Umm. No, I umm. No.

I'm the least "fabulous" person you ever met, I don't lisp my esses, I go catatonic whenever Jessica Alba is on TV. Straight women know I'm straight. Straight men know I'm straight. Gay men think I'm gay. Go figure.

My ex tells me it's because in person, I'm flirting with everyone whether I realize it or not. That kind of worries me.

Re: A case of mistaken orientation
 

OH lordy..the memories this thread brings up....

Incident #1: Lesbian flirted with me, told her I was straight, we became good friends after that.

Incident #2: Lesbian flirted with me, she knew that I was straight, she kept trying anyhow. Turns out she was a serial liar and a thief. She was banished from the circle of friends with the swiftness.

Incident#3: Was hanging out at the local gay bar (back when I was a fag hag), and a lesbian started talking to me. She told me about herself, including how she sometimes had thoughts of suicide. Had to tell her I was straight, and we never saw her again. Scary to think what happened to her...

Incident #4: Was hanging out at the same bar one Saturday night. It was closing time, and people were leaving. Lesbian and her girlfriend (or friend for the night) walked past, and one of them lightly touched my butt. I turned around, shocked, and she winked at me. (whoa!). I could only laugh, because I was taken off guard. Then I was thinking, "Hell, why can't a MAN do that?!?!?!" :p

must be your pink trousers.

They're not pink, they're salmon. Maybe if they weren't ass-less...

I was... but I think it's a compliment. I f you're so attractive that even gay people want to date you... Don't bother a lot about that, have some gay friends and they are cool. To me just ordinary people doing things I wouldn't do, but what the... I'm not the one who gonna judging them.

I had several gay hits on me, but just like when women have hit on me, I don't realize what happened until I think about it much later. I'm realizing now its not just me with this.


*Thread Hijack* I have heard several times from women that pink dress shirts are the in thing for men. The one 'metrosexual' guy at work came in with a pink shirt and at least three different women complimented him on it.

Sorry, even for compliments I'm not wearing a pink shirt. (though I do have a pumpkin colored shirt)

pink shirts.

pink isn;t in my color pallette. i'm pink enough my self.

i look best in blue. thilly.

Heh! I used to be flattered as all hell that at least *someone* thought that I was attractive enough to hit on (my self esteem back then wasn't what it is today). :p

I have been hit on twice by a woman, that I know of.
The first time it happened the woman was kinda dancing around the issue and it took me several minutes to figure out what was going on. I can tell pretty quick when a guy is hitting on me but when a woman does it, it goes whoosh, right over my head.

The second time it happened the girl got real touchy feely with me and I asked her flat out what she was doing (I don't like people I just meet getting all handsy with me). She told me and I remember just standing there while my brain tired to catch up. I said no thank you and left the area as fast as I could.

I have no problem with people who are gay. Had several flaming gay friends in High School, and a lesbian friend in collage. I just have a hard time figuring out what to do when one hits on me. I never expect it and the shock factor makes it hard for my brain to think rationally.

One of my first jobs was at a department store, when I was young and naive. It took me months to figure out that this older guy who liked to hang out with me actually had the hots for me. The dude was creepy, too... his eyes didn't quite point the right way, and he wasn't all there mentally. He looked like a big, fat, bald poster boy for sweaty perverts everywhere.

Once I realized that his "friendliness" was in fact some bizarre form of NAMBLA-sponsored flirting, my skin crawled a few laps around my body, and I made sure to minimize contact with him from then on. He got even stranger then, and started following me places. It was a hoot. I disentangled myself from the inopportune employment, and he quickly became but an unpleasant memory.

There have been a few other times where men have seemed suspiciously over-fascinated with me, but nothing worth mentioning. I guess that's just the price to pay when you're as gooooood looking as I am. *cough*

I have no problem with gay men, but I can't grasp their motivations. Lesbians? Sure! If I were a woman, I'd be a lesbian. But what kind of guy picks dudes over chicks? Observe as my mind boggles.

I WISH I WAS A LESBIAN

i'm actually a lesbian trapped in a man's body

Isn't that what you'd call a horny guy who can't get it up?

BA DUM BUM!

Thank you, thank you... I'll be here all week.

Why did you say "but, thanks"?

Red & black baby...it's so you.

You should get the band back togethor and name it Massive Hetero Wave.

Yeah see, this is what I don't get either. Sex, or weird sex I can understand.

You want to do what with another guy's hooha? OK, understandable.

You feel more comfortable being with men? OK, fucked up but to each his own.

You are a woman in a man's body? Doubt it, but again whatever works for you.

Hot chicks don't turn you on? Ever? Whoa...what the hell is wrong with you?!?!

i doesn;t get it.

Not right now, but at that time I decided who got hired, who got let go and I hired my own boss.

I've had my own business, been a supervisor, and I'll tell ya, I'd rather just go to work ya know?

Lumberjack dumbass....christ, didn't you just post a picture of yourself all woodsy wanna be, flannel shirt, beard wearing?

You ever heard of Paul Bunyan? You need to take another road trip, up here into the real world...I have a red & black checker double insulated coat/shirt I'd be happy to loan you. But you can't pussy out the first time it gets -20 below, and if you make a bad Packer joke, I will kill you.

If you can abide by that, you're welcome anytime.

yeah, i'm with blue...well not with him....not like that, anyway. but most women you'll ask will say that hot chicks turn THEM on. the female body is so much more beautiful than a man's. especially really hairy men like blue.

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Rho, the men in gay bars are generally...er...um...gay. :haha:

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Heh, I didn't mean the men at the bar. (although, some of them liked to 'play' flirt).

oh...well that was so obvious, i don;t know what the hell is wrong with me. :rolleyes:

bad packers joke? like this one?: http://cellar.org/attachment.php?s=&postid=91329

Yeah like that one...maybe you better steer clear of Wisconsin on second thought.

There is no beauty in a mans body, totally functional, manly men like womenly women...I have no idea where I'm going with this, I just came back from the bathroom and just started typing you know, to finish the reply.

Anyhow, I've got that shirt for real...wanna trade it for something? We could do a barter kind of thing, like the CD exchange but different. I'd send you something crappy and you'd send me something cool. Let me know if you're in.

your shirt wouldnt fit me, daffodil.


i'll trade you my chainsaw for your ford tractor, though.

You're right about the shirt honeybunch. But I already have a chainsaw, a NEW one, bigass 18" Menards (you probably don't know what that is?).

My FORD is not for sale. How about this.....I'll send you a computer for Spencer, you send me a new car?

what i dont get about some lesbians-

if i was gay (if...IF) i would want to be with what they call a 'lipstick' lesbian. And i would be a lipstick lesbian as well!

I mean i'm gay for a reason and thats because i like girls. so i would want a girly looking girl. and not a man.

So why do some lesbians have to cut their hair short, wear flanno jackets and swear like a wharfie?

why bother being a lesbian if your gonna go out with some chick that looks/ acts like a guy anyway... whats the point?

pink dress shirts are the in thing for men
 

I realize you all don't know me that well, but should we ever meet, and I have a pink shirt on, please kill me on the spot, shoot me dead.

men in pink (salmnon whatever!) shirts are SO SEXY!

brown hair, buff body,tanned skin, pink shirt.. drool!

sorry guys thats just the way it is.

bigger framed men, men over 26, or men without brown hair, i wouldnt consider in pink shirts. just doesnt match with me.

Not that i only think that because thats my type. My type is actually a bigger framed guy, but a pink shirt will make me look twice.

I don't have the answer too your question, I've also wondred why every gay woman on the news in the recent developments was so butt ugly, but have to admit that the whole lipstick lesbian thing gave me wood.

The answer is: People are different. Ain't no accounting for tastes.

On Miami Vice, Don Johnson used to wear a pink t-shirt under a white coat. I was 15 years old and tried to do the same thing, with a red t-shirt I had bleached out for the purpose.

I learn lessons on the first go-round. Don't need another.

You should get the band back togethor and name it Massive Hetero Wave.

Wrong Door Interaction will open for them! :)


Incident #4: Was hanging out at the same bar one Saturday night. It was closing time, and people were leaving. Lesbian and her girlfriend (or friend for the night) walked past, and one of them lightly touched my butt. I turned around, shocked, and she winked at me. (whoa!). I could only laugh, because I was taken off guard. Then I was thinking, "Hell, why can't a MAN do that?!?!?!"

Because they know that in today's society, best case scenario they're probably getting slapped, and worst case their ass would be in prison. Probably getting more than "lightly touched."


men in pink (salmnon whatever!) shirts are SO SEXY!
brown hair, buff body,tanned skin, pink shirt.. drool!

Oh dear. Though not in the physically repulsive direction, that's still a pretty far opposite from sexy to me.

Growing up my mom had many couple friends that were lesbian and gay. I started to notice a distinct pattern in almost all of them. In a relationship there is alway a man and a woman. The gay couples she knew always consisted of a flaming gay man and a less detectable gay partner. The lesbian couples were the same, always one butch woman and one "normal" woman. So I think that is the reason some of them are more butch, because someone has to be the masculine part of the relationship.

Edit: Fixed a mistake. Couldn't say all when it wasn't.

Wrong Door Interaction will open for them
 

My, what a wonderful and twisted memory you have, ;-)

Thank you, I was thinking the same damn thing....glad one of us had the balls to say it.

but if your attracted to WOMEN, wouldnt that make you less atracted to women who look like men? wouldnt you be attracted to women that look like women?

Are there any guys out there who are attracted to masculine women? If so, does this make anyone around them suspicious that they are gay?

I know this girl who is very masculine, and i admit, sometimes... she is attractive to me. but only for her masculine qualities. because i like men. i just dont get it.

sun, you make a no lesbian joke promise very difficult to keep.

My theory in answer to your question:

I totally understand the bull dyke. She is a manly woman. physically female, mentally male. born gay.

the lipstick lesbian that likes the butch learned it. Something happened to make her distrust and.or fear men, so she turns to a woman that resembles a man. physically attracted to men, mentally attracted to women.


i understand that this is a broad generalization, but I think that it may be likely in many cases. or something.

Having never been a lesbian, I cant answer why it works that way. I just know that out of about 20 Gay/Lesbian couples I was around growing up, all but 2 had a very obvious masculine member and a very obvious feminine member of the couple. Maybe you could argue that being Gay is out of the natural order of things and having a feminine and masculine member of the couple is natures way of trying to balance it some how. I don't believe that but I am sure someone, somewhere does.

I don't know if it is likely in "many cases", but I am sure its the case in a few situations.
How does that theory work on a Male couple? Where one is flaming gay and the other is just a average acting male. What makes the average "likes to watch sports" male attracted to the very feminine male? I don't know that I can buy that some woman made him distrust and fear women and so he turned to a man.

yeah, who knows.....

I don;t have any gay friends that I know of, or I'd ask them.

but i suppose, sometimes I can be attracted to femine acting men. And i am sure most women have been attracted to a gay man at one stage.

but... do hetero males often get attracted to masculine women?

and does the male 'lesbian fantasy' still hold up if one of the lesbians are masculine?

:confused:

I've hit on lesbians does that count?

Hell I even dated one, and it's quite an odd feeling to walk into a room at a party and see the girl you brought going down on another girl. I mean yeah part of you wants to go cool wheres the video camera, or say something like mind if I cut in. Then you think WTF. Why am I not the one under the tounge right now. (she did make amends by hooking me up with her straight friend that night, but that still doesn't count).

She turned into the butch type, but wasn't so much at the time I knew her. So hopefully that doesn't mean I have repressed feelings or anything.

I do have people think I'm gay. Maybe it's because I'm 30 and unmarried. Or maybe it's because I walk around and freak the guys at work out by slapping them on the ass and saying 'good game man'. I mean that's not gay is it. All the sports stars do it right?

I'm the cut-up at work so everybody knows me. For fun they told the new guy that I really was gay and he is a homophobe deluxe. I always make it a point to wave at him as I'm walking by and he won't even look at me. I walked into his work area and he had his back to me and when I spoke I swear he almost crapped himself. Dropped a 4 foot 2x4 he was carrying (I was 5 foot away ;) ) and just looked at it and me and then finally grabbed it again in a sturdy grip.

When this rumour had grown out of my control I started to play it up. I mean what better job protection do you have in a turbulent job market then to become a minority. I can't change my ethinicity, but sexual orientation is cool. I started asking some of the guys about anal sex. I mean if you do that with a woman doesn't that make you gay? I mean a hole is a hole right? If you had anal sex with a woman, would you have it with a man if I gave you 20 million dollars and noboy knew? I think some of them do think I'm gay now. And some of them know the truth and know that I'm just not right in the head and will do anything for a laugh.

It is wierd though that I don't tend to post much, but here I am posting a short novella about people thinking I'm gay.

Really I'm not gay, Not that theres anything wrong with that. :D

Being attracted to a man is normal for a straight woman. Yes it may be a gay man, but physically its still a man. I have been attracted to gay men, but it was a physical attraction as in "my god that is a good looking man" and nothing more. The friends I have had that were gay were more like girlfriend to me then men. After hanging out with them a few times any attraction was gone, because they act like women.


Often? I don't think so, but it does happen. Maybe they see something in a masculine woman that they are missing. Maybe they like someone else being in charge. There could be a million reasons why a man would be attracted to a woman who is masculine.

Don't know the answer to that one. I'm not a man so the lesbian fantasy thing goes right over my head regardless if its two hot chicks or a hot chick and a dike. LumberJim, perhaps you could answer this part of the questions.

And there's a female version: it's becoming quite the fad among younger women to watch 2 guys make out. Not the leather-and-fisting ass-pirate stuff, just kissing. My nephew's friend revealed this to me just the other day.

nope. dykes are out. ...when i think dyke, i have a walking fireplug in my mind. crew cut, big wristwatch, boots, sleeves rolled up. not sexy. dont want to see her nekked. no thanks. um...no.

there's this girl i work with who is bisexual. she just had a baby and she's a little calmer now, but when she was single and when she was dating her husband, she was always trying to get me to do a threesome with her. it totally turned me off. i told her that i have no interest in other women like that, but she still asked me a few more times after that. yuck.
sometimes i feel like i'm the only woman who hasn't messed around with another girl. i just don't get it. i am very liberal and willing to try new, fun things sexually, but screwing around with a chick ISN'T one of them!....

I don't think I could make out with another guy even if it was gonna turn on some babe to the point where she'd want me.

BUT

I could do it if I was on stage and I was acting.