Pre-Judging and Predjudice
 

I sometimes feel like there are about 15 to 20 different types of people. body types. AND personality types. Everyone is different, obviously, and in significant enough degrees that you really can't base a decision about someone on what someone who LOOKED like them, or ACTED like them... did or said. Yet, I think that there is a mild corelation between body type and personality type. A person's appearance gives you clues about who you're about to meet, and you unconsciously narrow your field of expected traits to suit.

When I first came on here, I created mental images in my head when i imagined a person who's post i was reading.

maybe i'm nuts, but until i meet someone that i've talked to on the phone or online, i have a loose image of what that person looks like which i can only say is based on some other person iv'e met's voice similarity. or tone or diction, or "feel" from this kind of a forum. those of you who read this that have not seen my picture, may have a mental image of me. I imagined Elspode with slicked back hair, a pipe and a smoking jacket....oh, and a snidely type mustache. ZippyT looks exactly like i thought he would. in spode's case, i was WAY off, but then, i did get zippy right. Wolf, you looked like Lucy from peanuts!....

It's like when you're reading a book, and you "set" the characters in your mind's eye. they exist in a location from your memory, unless the author is going out of his way to paint the picture for you.

I pay attention to this, and it helps me in my work. I have a relatively small amount of time with a customer, and I'm expected to sell them something even though they've been warned by Dianne Sawyer, and their Uncle Lou, who got ripped off by some schmuck on a used car lot. You have to be able to "suss" people quickly, and approach from a direction that makes the customer comfortable. Sometimes, I'll curse intentionally with younger customers in order to "bond" with them, and let them trust me. With older customers, it's all "yes, sir" , " yes ma'am"

People are as different as snowflakes, yet they are made of the same stuff.

this all feels vaguely familiar ~ ~~creepy~~~

jim, I've posted enough pictures of myself around here everyone knows what I look like. And sycamore has actually met me and hoisted a few.

I picture you as a Paul Bunyan type. Or the guy on the Brawny paper towel rolls (old style, the new guy looks gay). BTW, how's Babe?

babe's blue

OH...MY...GOD....I'm almost crying here! :D

And you see me how?

Don't say like an asshole..I know that much.

File Not Found looks like Dolph Lundgren?

LJ, I don't even know how to take your initial mental image of me. Do I really write that stuffy?

Shit.

LJ if you are talking about the pic from the member gallery there IS a story behind that pose . At the time i was getting between 70-80 hours a week at work , my wife , kids , and 2-3 other family went camping on the TN river . Because of work we couldn't leave untill 11pm . When we got to our camp site it was like 3am and raining so hard it was like somepody was following you with a fire hose over your head . I set up our BIG MONDO HOOCH tent , crammed EVERY body in it . The next morning I woke up befor ever body else , gathered fire wood , started a fire , and coffie , then i helped EVERY body else set up their tents and get the camp site in Marine corps shape .
When that pic was taken i had had a few beers , and "J"'s , and i was layed back in a hammoc catching a breeze from the river and watching the girls in bikinis go by in boats . The wifes and other husbands were playing cards , the kids were all playing nice and haveing fun and i was as about supremly happy aand content as i have EVER been in my life !!!

Jim: Couldn't you have started this thread by saying mental pictures?What I mean is: How you visualize someone doesn't necessarily "prejudice" you.Does it?Or is the word prejudice too much of a trigger word?Hunch perhaps?

It is a great idea though.Most of yours are.Keep it up.

well, pre judging was what I began with, but prejudice, I think, would apply as well, because we often act a certain way toward people based upon what we know of those that appeared or acted like them in the past. Sometimes that is the right thing to do, smoetimes it's not.

And thank you. I'll do my best.

farfromhome, you seem like someone who needs a keyboard replacement. Apparently your Space Bar isn't always working.

I know what you mean. I had a very similar experience in a canyon in new mexico.
this is a link to the beginning of that very long story.

"space bar"
 

Oh,that big thing down there.Hmm...
To tell you the truth I've never liked my text the way its printed doing it the correct way.Its just a little personal pet peeve of mine.But "(big space bar)" thanks for making me feel like I'm ay work.

At

farfromhome, I'm not a punctuation nazi.

It's just that when a period happens I gotta get some space.

Nothing But Net-I'm confused.You're on your period?Then by all means,please take all the space you need.

...and then some.

I think im at the point where im just starting to take shape in you peoples' minds.

Oh, and why not use the space bar after punctuation? For me, it just feels right to have my right thumb to slap the bottom of the keyboard after every word.

Eh, to each their own.

I have a picture of most of the regulars here..

Lumberjim - I picture him to look just like 'Al from that show tool time, with a red flanno jacket and a tool belt.

FileNotFound - I used to picture him as a guy with a real square jaw and short blone hair and a clean white shirt, when i saw the pictures of him i dont think it was anywhere near the picture i had in my head. I thought he would look younger.

LadySycamore- I imagine to be always really well groomed, and i cant imagine her swearing.

xoxobruce- i have an uncle named bruce and you know how if you havent met soemone but they have the same name as someone you know, you kind of place a preconcieved stereotype of them? my uncle bruce is really flamboyant, and bright, i see you as the same.

Undertoad - I see as a jeans and t-shirt kina guy with an underlying sense of authority, that he will exercise when forced. i see short brown hair and a 5o'clock shadow.

Riddil - Well we have all seen his happy snaps :joylove:

Nothing But Net - i see you having glasses (rounded ones) and slicked back hair and black jeans and a pale complextion.

Elspode- i see as a normal loking guy but with a larger forehead than most due to the stress and deep thinking he portrays in his posts.

Blue58- i see you as very petite, maybe with strawberry blonde hair and a small sharp nose.

blah blah blah...

but you probably all look/are completely different, but these are just some of the images that come to mind when i read your posts.

*tumbleweed*

everyone gets offended at sun sparkz comments and deserts the thread.

Im Sorry!!

:)

Don't be.;)

You got me right except my hair is long now.

http://cellar.org/2004/me6.jpg

^^^the fonz




-Ljim

Pffft!

no one's offended. here's you:

Damn LJ you have her looking like a boxer with tits !!!!!

you might be next, bub.

hahahha~~ ! oh no LJ - you think i look like a drag queen!!

man, a bunch of friggin art critics......you know how hard it is to draw a female pofile? that was like the 5th jawline itried....at least there's no adams apple!
and it was late...and i was :joint: , and and........well, yeah ok it looks like a drag queen.......

...but you ARE almost PETAish in your stance about animals, and you ARE a single strong willed woman.....so, ........sorry, i still cant do the lesbian joke for you.

the hair is actually STRAWBERRY blonde and im a little more petite than that.

OMG - when you describe me like that it makes me feel like i SHOULD be a lesbian..

:worried:

Don't sweat it, sun ... it's the only way he can explain away your resistance to his charms, as well as fuel his fantasies.

You know guys dig that chick-on-chick stuff.

stop it wolf! you tryin to get me in trouble? i was not charming her.......

we do dig the girl on girl, but who posted that bouncing girl's ass the other day?

i couldnt make the lesbian joke cuz sun seems so nice and un-jaded.......you, on the other hand........

It's just because I like comfortable shoes and can open my own spaghetti sauce jars, isn't it?

well, that and your love of firearms, monster trucks, and the three stooges.

hell your practically an honorary man.

I think that was established when I out testosteroned several people on the "man talk" thread. ;)

It's part of my essential charm.

And prolly more honorable than most.

Thank you, griff. :blush: