My staff wants me dead
 

ha ha ... learned today that the staff of my clinic talks daily about hoping I die today, or that I have a car accident on the way to work. They call me 'Miss Canada' as if that were something derogatory.
Plus other random derogatory stuff. These are the people who used to come in at 9:30 and clock in on the computer as starting at 8:00. They turned away people because they couldn't be bothered seeing patients, including a guy I've seen now for six months with a severe head injury who has benefited from multiple therapies.

Apparently this has been going on for months, and the non-hospital staff we share office space with got so disgusted they finally shared. I got the brunt of it this morning, right before clinic. A month ago I was accused of bullying; a week ago the VP of HR told me I was 'equally the problem'. He knew the staff were saying loudly that they wished I were dead, or would be maimed enroute to work. But I am equally the problem, according to him.

I meet with the CEO on Friday. I am done with this. Either he gets rid of staff who actively, vociferously wish my death on a daily basis, or he faces the biggest EEOC lawsuit ever, and I go out on my own.

Geez, that's so terrible, Orthodoc. I don't know what to say other than that I hope things get better soon. I truly do hope so.

Thanks, Lola. I feel a bit like Jon Snow - I know nothing, and too many people wish me dead.

if its them or you on the LAST day bring in some Brownies , Double exlax !!!

Fucking bastards. Wtf is wrong with people?

Ortho, hon, you deserve better.

Setting aside the awfulness of the situation that's a fucking funny line.

WSS

You may certainly begin proceedings. But what you MUST do, MUST MUST MUST,...

You are an hour late for shift. A friend calls the main desk. "Do you know where Ortho is? I was on the mobile phone with her and suddenly it went dead and I can't reach her. It sounded like an accident! She was on the highway and she screamed and then it went dead!"

Fifteen minutes later someone calls as a cop. "We think we'll have an inbound for ER but this may take a while. It's definitely gonna be a DOA. This is a mess. Semi hit a passenger car. I thought I would call because it looks like she's one of yours. She's dressed like she's headed in for work and I saw one of your badges. No I couldn't make out who it was, like I said it's a mess, and I'm now 500 feet away managing the accident site. Oops, gotta go."

An hour later (give it time to spread) you just casually stroll in.

"What?"

hey orthodoc.

I'm really sorry to hear you have such a hostile environment at work. I've worked in places where I felt hostility toward me and it was terrible, unbearable. My (most recent such) situation eventually ended with my being laid off, so you should know that before you read my thoughts on the matter. Caveat emptor. I should also add in my best Captain Obvious voice, I am not a lawyer.

The situation you describe sounds shitty. But I don't see what the EEOC has to do with what you've described. People being shitty is not illegal, to my knowledge. You said you heard this third hand, they're not even being shitty to you directly. What's your complaint? The VP of HR who's said you're half the problem, that sounds shitty too. But it seems like you've left something out, what exactly *is* your half, according to the VP? That you continue to draw breath? Obviously, that's their problem, not yours. That you don't let them falsify their timesheets? Once again, their problem, not yours. You're a bully? I don't know, maybe you are. That's pretty subjective, and hard to prove, like the "die in a car crash" might be hard to prove. Regardless.

The whole "he said, she said", or "I heard someone said somebody else said...", who the fuck wants to play that kind of game?!? Not you. I could be wrong, but I think you're much more about the work, and not (at all) about the fucking junior high school drama and shenanigans. SO, if you don't like that part, don't play. Don't go onto that part of the playground. Stick to the parts you like, you're good at, and that can be objectively evaluated. You know, like the actual work. Honest timesheets. Valid patient assessments. Doctor-y stuff. That's YOUR territory, that's your home field advantage. And you have an additional benefit, that's what the company wants too--even if some of the people there don't say so (I'm looking at you, VP).

The company wants to make their goddamn money, and the shitty statements are irrelevant. They're irrelevant. They're irrelevant UNTIL they impact the success of the business. Right now, the shit stirrers are successful at making it appear that the problem is you (at least half of it, eh?). Make the business case, stick to the business case. Show them how the shitty remarks are costing the business money and you'll have their attention. That's the kind of thing that can be documented and measured, plus, it's really what the business cares about.

Keep in mind, I don't work in that kind of environment any more, that environment expelled me; we were not compatible. I wasn't any good at playing that game and I didn't like it. Those two factors reinforced each other, amplified each other and eventually impacted my actual work duties. To say it was a distraction would be an understatement. Apparently, someone(s) there want you gone. That was true in my case, and eventually someone who could make that happen was similarly persuaded. I can say my life is much better now than then, overall, though my money situation is not better. Still, worth it.

TL;DR

Stick to the work. It's what you do best, it's what you like best, and it's where you have the greatest advantage and possibility of success. Mean people suck; let them.

Try not to let the bastards wear ya down.

Maybe you could buy everyone in the office a copy of this:

Or this:

Attachment 51809

How much are they willing to pay?. I could pretend to be a hit man, take their money, then split it with you. :cool:

Back in 1992, I once fucked with my squad so hard that they threatened to kill me and leave me in the field. It had nothing to do with me, I was just doing my job.

So, I talked with the CEO today. He only gets 'It's a mess!' from his VP of HR and has no details. I made him laugh with a few stories, such as how for the first 2 months I thought the clinic operated 8-4, because everyone was out the door at 3:55. Turns out we're 8-4:30.

Otherwise it's a bit like joe's story (thanks, joe) ... I had a mandate, needed to rein in the outrageous aspects of ripofferry, and my staff want to kill me. If they were willing to pay something I'd take you up on your offer, sexobon.

As far as EEOC goes, anyone can launch an EEOC complaint. The hospital is running terrified of what they KNOW is an unjustified threat, but the $$$ it will cost them to defend it isn't worth it to them. I honestly have a far more serious basis for an EEOC complaint, not based on asshole twentysomethings wishing me dead, but on other stuff. But no, I'm not going that route.

I liked your suggestion, UT, except that they'd all be so downcast at me walking in alive that I'd have to console them.

Things have looked up somewhat, however. The ringleader receptionist got a call this morning informing her that she will report to Medical Records (windowless, basement) Monday morning. That's where her job is, henceforth. The nurse manager was LIVID and doing everything she could to stave off the move, but no dice by lunchtime when I left for meetings. If wishes could kill I would be dead by now. :rolleyes:

Meanwhile, my boss called the woman who can salvage this situation and offered her a job. She's smarter than me, works hardest, takes no bs from anybody, and my nurse manager hates her. I love her. If she comes back to the practice we can do this thing. So, celebrating tonight!

^WHS^

Great news!

Pretty much the same book

Things are looking better....yay!!!!!

Fuck them all sideways with a dead dingo dick. Arseholes.

Ah the joys of working with jealous women... See comparing their insides to my outsides for more details ;)

:notworthy

Man, I love a woman who knows how to cuss.

Gotta love the Aussie style too. All that alliteration. It's practically Shakespearean (via Monty Python)

I do my best. ;)

I appreciate that.

:D

He said with his hand in his pants. :stickpoke

Ha! Well done.

Love you all, guys. THANK YOU so much! This past year, I've felt a bit crazy at times - like the haters must be right, I must be a terrible person. Everyone behaving in ways I haven't encountered, ever, since middle school. I've hated going in, every single day.

But things, while not on an even keel yet, are steadying, and a breath of fresh air is finally blowing through the place. The ringleader has been gone since yesterday. The nurse manager is having conniptions and predicting the end of the world, but strangely, the planet has remained on its axis.

Today at the end of the day, I found out that the one good person on staff (who came in January, independent of this other clique) is being allowed to stay. HOORAY!!! There's a fuckup going on with respect to the other person who was offered a job last week, as the respective job wasn't posted this week - but I will do everything I can to get her here. If she and the excellent person who's staying both were in the practice fulltime, we would TAKE OVER THE WORLD, I swear. Or at least take over all Occ Med business in the region. ;)

And, Ali ... I have to steal your perfect cuss-out. Ha!

Thanks again, guys.

Of course you're crazy, that's why you fit right in here. :p:

welllll... I don't know about crazy, as I may be crazy my own damn self,


BUT.

I agree, you do fit right in here. I'm glad you're here. Please stay. Stay crazy too, if that works for you.

We all know you'd do anyone you could get your hands on, not just your best.

Actually, I probably would tonight. I don't know what's come over me. Or maybe that's the problem. Nothing has.

hahahhahha

Fuck 'em all and your fine and *support* *support* *support* ...

Or... Funny thing about junior High school games: They can be won.

Create a good mental map of the social dynamic. It is often a few members setting the tone, and a few key horses giving them a ride and becoming the enablers, the more submissive ones have an incredible social power in their choice of who they become submissive too and who's approval they seek, because that orients the direction of office atmosphere.

Determine who's connected to who in what way and you'll be able to figure out the nature of the social exchange you don't get to see in front of your face, which is where the bitching goes. An easy tactic to acomplish that is creating a few contradicting versions of gossip and spreading them at different points in the social map, this way you can see the pipelines of what comes out where, and more importantly, when people hear confusing stories they show their disorientation, or when they agree with the first version they hear blindly they express the confrontation when encountering the second story. You can also gear those to depend on bias to see who's biased for or against who - can be done in a day or two easily enough. Once you have that map, you know which key players would be in a position to spread around their issues with you, and which one of them you can get on your side. Curve your own niche, grab those key enablers among them, and you disband the current network of bitchiness.