Abuse (Lets Deal With it)
 

Well to be honest I don't trust myself around women that is why I don't even try to find a girl friend. When I was a kid I was subject to abuse from my dad and I credit myself to liberating my mother from the strong hold of my fathers abuse. The Irony now everyone thinks I'm some monster tor-wards women because of some of the ridiculousness I've verbally done on the net. While yes I have crossed the line, NO I don't think I'm an abuser. However I don't think I even know how to have a relationship so I'm just gonna stay single till I find a woman who is stronger than me who can keep me in check an keep me in love.

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Quid pro quo

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Did you ever get therapy specifically for the abuse?

Yes, I did when my parents got divorced my mom sent me to a therapist.

That's good! Do you feel it was helpful?

The only thing that I got out of it was that "the grass wasn't any greener on the other side".

Are you saying that you were no better off after your parents got divorced?

I dunno they separated when I was 15 and I was free as a 'wild child' I got away with things I would have never gotten away with if my dad was around..

What caused that situation to eventually change?

My Dad went back to school and studied construction engineering and left my mom and us to fend for ourselves.. she kept the house and went broke.. he stayed away and now he works as an engineer.. The older we got the more ridiculous it got but when I flunked out of college It was a very humbling experience and I realized that family was more important than money so now I just unconditional forgive them both.

Where's My 2 dollars??

Here's your tip:
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Better
Understanding
Serves
Everyone

Fear
Love
Anger
Sad
Happy

all other emotions can be derived from that.

Which is jealously/envy derived from?

Fear.

I can be envious of what someone else has attained or achieved while being happy for them and their accomplishment without fear entering into it because it's a matter of respect.

Which is respect derived from?

I don't know enough about emotions to get to into it. I learned that association from a recovered alcoholic.

FTW!

bwahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaa

your already not a truly abusive person for one simply reason: you are able to recognize your own potentially hurtful behaviors, which means you can see it from the other side's point of view.

now its not that i am the master of experience, far from it, but i am pretty sure most people deal with all of the same crap - feeling jealous, feeling under-appreciated & un-admired, times where the relationship serves as more stress then a haven, anger, annoyance, self sacrifice tied with resentment & selfishness tied with guilt, etc... just to name a few. regardless, all the crap that drives people towards abuse is there in... well, humans.

so i think the question is: how good are you at taking care of your own crap before you let it hurt the people you love?

so i think the question is: how good are you at taking care of your own crap before you let it hurt the people you love?

horrible

so figure out what psychological tools are you missing to deal with it on your own turf, build them, and go back to the game.