Character flawz, we haz them
 

Put a label on yours, maybe you can do something about it.

Griff: limited generosity of spirit
If doing something for someone gives every indication of being truly unproductive, I have a really hard time committing my time to it. I think the root of it was those many many hours spent with my Dad not getting stuff done on the farm growing up. My Mom's side of the family is notorious for remarkably effective work habits, while my Dad's side could find the road blocks and pointless rambling in any activity. Now I'm kind of a bastard about letting my life slip away in dithering...

I am impatient.
I hate talking about gonna. Do it now and do it right and don't expect a parade when you're done.

I am unforgiving and I don't forget.

I procrastinate.

I beat myself up hard. I am severely beaten at this point.

Im sneaky.

I will not ask anyone for help.

I want others to help me (if I need help) because they care about me, not because I asked for a favor.

I am mostly disappointed.

I am really fucking lazy. It's an effort sometimes to live in the world instead of my head.

ditto

I'm a compulsive masturbator.

I mean anonymous is a compulsive masturbator.

I am a compulsive wise-ass who avoids sincerity when possible.

I don't so much kill hobos as take away things useful for hobo survival like say not having a car parked on their chest or not having ground in close proximity when initially being pushed off a railroad bridge. Sometimes I avoid responsibility for stuff as well but nothing comes to mind. um... anonymous asked me to put that up for him/her

I am all of the above.

I take personal responsibility for everything, everything, and beat myself up over failures I had no real control over--while at the same time being secretly irritated as all shit that everyone else isn't also taking personal responsibility for all the same things. I have no compassion skills whatsoever.

I don't think critically enough about relationships when I fall in love or even like.I avoid hurt by avoiding too much. I hide all that by seeming aloof. Want the shirt off my back. Here have it. You want a deeper commitment or for me to play ' I want you to want me so much' games. I'll balk and maybe even walk away.

I'll hold things in until it's at critical mass. This might be due to the avoiding and not thinking critically before it gets to that point. I don't fight I just lay it out and go.

Insecure.

I can get white-hot mad in .06 seconds.

Sarcasm - now a way of life.

I see people/things/life in terms of black or white - good or bad - superwonderful or evil as shit.

I am superficial, rash, judgmental, impulsive and easily annoyed.

I watch too many shows on courtTeeVee.

I nurture my sense of jealousy and entitlement.

I am working on all these things.

This is the main reason I so rarely ask for help IRL. So many times people have said to me in retrospect, "I would have helped you with that! Why didn't you ask?" Because I've never been able to get over the rejection of when I did.
My evil ex said I had a magnesium flare temper. From nothing to make-you-blind-if-you-look-at-it. Then again, he was a cheating arsehole.
Amen.
Me too.

I'm frivolous with money.
I have a mayfly mind - obsessed with something one day, dead to it the next. I'll never be a scholar :(
Frustration turns to anger almost immediately with me. Living with Mum has helped because I can see where it comes from, but I am still too liable to blame my anger on anything other than myself.
I hold a mean grudge. I'm better than I was (I used to have a mental assassination list!) but I can take offense far too easily.
I am insecure and self-loathing. My life would be far more fulfilling if only I liked myself.

Oh. And I'm too self critical ;)

I procrastinate. My attitude is very defeatest. I'm a pessimist who always sees the glass as half empty. I have difficulty following stuff through. I beat mysel up - a lot!

I am a classhole

I am a person of extremes. I have very few in-betweens but I can shoot to either extreme in 4.2 flat.

I'm OCD, but not in any productive ways.

I'm a pushover.

Another procrastinator here. It's pretty bad. If I didn't procrastinate so much at work, I'd really be pretty freaking amazing, and probably not stuck in middle management, but instead, I'm just average. I can do amazing things when I work hard and stay focused, but I can never maintain it.

jinx tells me I'm passive aggressive....but I think she's just being a bitch.

but seriously folks...

I escape. I don't want to dwell on problems, so I get involved in 'fun' stuff, and forget them. I know when I face them, I can typically solve them, but it's like I need to have some stressor looming over me for some reason. Couple that with my habit of not wanting to talk about things that bother me and I come off as deceptive to those closest to me.

I also have very low will power when it comes to indulging myself. I don't have any patience when I want something.

boy, I suck.

Well, you'll always have a pal in Sheldon...

Forgiveness is hard to work into my persona. I rarely forget a wrong. I give everyone I meet 100 points, you lose them on your own based on your own actions. I am really big into self responsibility. Do the crime, do the time. But do whatever you want, just know they come with responsibility and consequence.

I am big in to vengence. Screw me, I will screw you a hundred times over what you did to me. A flaw but I am working on it.

I am sure there are more.

AM deceptive. see how passive aggression works? I don't even realize I'm doing it. saying I 'come off as' puts the onus on the perceiver. If I do things that SEEM deceptive, I AM being deceptive.

I'm perfect.

I dont know...perception isn't always reality. And 'deception' has a bad connotation to it. I am purposely deceptive a lot of times, but its usually just because I don't have the energy or desire to go into a big explanation. Or maybe I havent really sorted out my feeling enough to do so yet.

I have no patience for people who play matyr or people who're passive aggressive. If you've got a problem, spit it out and get it over and done with. Don't give me snide comments and expect me to 'get it'.

I'm really bad for giving people the silent treatment. I don't know if that means I'm passive aggressive too, but usually it's because I'm just so pissed off I don't want to open my mouth for fear of what's going to come out. I'm working on that one. It's not productive in any way.

I am very loyal, but once someone fucks me over, that's pretty much it. Not too many second chances around here. For this reason, I have a fairly small circle of friends, but I know I can trust them.

That leads to the next issue. I have very bad trust issues. It takes me a long time to trust, and if it's ever broken, I don't think I ever really get over it. I need to work on this more.

I have very little patience these days. That goes for behaviours and actions. I can't stand people who dither. If you're going to do it...just farking do it for fucks sake. If you're not, let someone who's more motivated than your lazy arse get to it now!

I don't forgive very easily.

wow is that passion or vehemence ?

I don't think either really. Just an honest description of my flaws as I see them and how they affect my life.

I think maybe I just didn't try and sugar coat my flaws. ;)

Or what you perceive to be flaws.;)

Well maybe Bruce, but really, why should anyone have to live up to my expectations? Why should other people be made to feel untrustworthy because I've got a problem? Why should others have to find another way to deal with anger just because I don't like the way they do it? I dunno. Those are just the thing I think about. :)`

No onus on anyone else to do anything. You react to life, as it comes at you, in a certain way, and you said you perceive some of those ways to be flaws in your character. I'm saying others may act in the same manner, and not agree it's flawed behavior.

Everyone that has listed a flaw has been so hard on themselves.Most anyway have directed their criticism inward.

( to no one in particular -just an observation )

That's true Bruce. I didn't realize that was what you meant in the first place.

You're right sky. I wasn't implying anyone else was being soft on themselves. I was only refering to myself. :)

oh no. I didn't get that at all from your post. I was just thinking out loud. It was to no one in particular.

It's kind of like a job interview, when they ask you "what would you say is your biggest fault" or some such, and you answer with a negative positive. For instance: I'm a perfectionist. I have to do everything right all the time, and immediately, or my left toe hurts. It's such a cross to bear.

;)

Yep. Me too.