I need some help
 

I'm looking for some help from fellow cellarites who are familiar with social networking sites. Here's the scoop:

The ex is a regular on several of the sites. I am blocked because I am not a friend (she had over 200 friends last I saw). She is posting photos and videos of my daughter that I would give anything to see. Remember, I have only seen my baby once since Nov.

If anybody could help me get a few pictures, I would be so grateful

Do you know any of the people who she's friends with? Maybe they could help you view the pics and vids?

I really don't know them except for a few local ones that I don't get along with. I'm not very good at it or I would try to create a fake id and become a friend. BTW ya'll, I'm not trying to get any information on her. I am only looking for photos of my daughter.

How do you know she is posting photos and vids of her? What I'm getting at here is can you use the source of that information to get to them?

She will post in her status updates that she has uploaded new pics of my daughter. She even posted a status update on the potty training. LOL.

have you asked her to post them elsewhere or send them to you so you can see them without appearing to stalk her?

A link to the sites would be a great start.

What do the family courts have to say about the situation

Why are you blocked? I don't understand. Is SHE blocking you from joining? Or are you member of the site, but not a "friend" of hers?

I believe SHE is blocking him. Apparently she is using he child as a tool to inflict pain in a breakup.


(I only know what is on here, so that is all assumption)

Well, if SHE is blocking him, then I don't know.

Big Sarge, are you guys on really bad terms or something? Is there no reasoning with her? Can you not appeal to her sense of ethical judgement and fairness, or does she simply have none?

Situation between is very bad and we are embroiled in a heated custody battle. Here's the short story of the situation: Older man falls for pretty younger girl & deploys. We had a beautiful baby born while I was deployed. When I return, the Army sends me to a hospital 8 hours from home. She falls for another soldier, who was married. They run away together (with my baby) to another state after cleaning out my savings to pay for his divorce and "start their new life".

I should not have troubled ya'll with this. I never had any intent on stalking her. Let's just drop it

OK, from my understanding, that is not OK behavior in the military. A soldier running off with another soldier's wife is definitely a no-no, supposedly. Can't you use that resource (the military) in order to get what you want?

And how is it exactly she got to clean out YOUR savings without being penalized? :mad:

lol - what difference does it make if they are in the military or not? whew

The military makes it a point to be involved in the home lives of servicemen. Domestic troubles are taken seriously.

That's a good point; if you haven't gotten his CO involved in your custody case, maybe you should?

You should not be denied visitation, that's just wrong.

If the other soldier ran away then how is he not AWOL - call the MPs.
If you are still married and she transported the child across state lines, call the FBI.
If you are divorced and she is blocking your visitation rights, call a cop.
If you are divorced and her name is still on your account, take a 2x4 and smack yourself upside the head with it.

I feel for you Sarge but there's a big chunk missing from this story which is making it difficult to come up with a helpful suggestion.

:eyeball::eyeball:

Exactly, and this situation should definitely be on their radar. If they aren't involved yet, they should be. A woman emptying your bank account and running off with your kid with another soldier, who is also married, is a big bad no-no behavior in the armed services.

Hey Sarge, you might try this website. Don't know if it'll do what you need, but try it out, see if it works. Supposed to find people on those type social networking sites. Site is http://yoname.com/ Good luck

Thanks for the comments ya'll. If you recall, I have mentioned this situation before & have even posted a photo of my daughter.

The other soldier was M-Day (Title 32) and not subject to UCMJ (He fell under state article 5). He obtained his divorce from his wife, before he mobilized.

That 'splains it. Good luck with that. Hang in there.

Sorry I can't help for real, but I do send you my wishes for the best!

Just use up ALL of your legal resources, first. Once you use up all of those, find more. There are probably non-profits/pro-bono organizations that can help, they just aren't obvious. I would not go this route of "spying" on her, whether or not its just to see your little girl, which I fully understand your longing. Better that you wait for the courts to sort it out. I'm afraid if you go down this sneaky route, and you get caught it will have severe consequences and keep you from seeing the child longer.
Be patient, don't give up. But also be careful about the steps you take.

What MTP said. Your daughter matters to you, so keep trying, but do not put a single toe one inch over the line of the law, otherwise the Ex can and will get some shark of a lawyer who will screw you even more.

Have you pursued custody/visitation? That is your first line of defense in a situation like this.

Sarge, through this thread you're learning.
You don't always get what you want from the Cellar. But if you try sometimes, you might find, you get some damned good advice, and a different way of looking at a problem. What? Oh okay, sometimes you get what you need too...

I know the responses haven't been what you initially requested, but they probably contain things worth following up on. I don't know, they're all written in foreign. All I know is a daughter really needs her Daddy. Forget about just seeing pics of her - you fight til the death to make sure she knows you love her - absent or not.