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The Secret of a Happy Marriage...

... is spanking, according to this article in New Scientist:

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SPANKING is stressful at first, but it could bring consenting couples closer together. That's the implication of two studies of hormonal changes associated with sadomasochistic (S&M) activities including spanking, bondage and flogging.

Brad Sagarin at Northern Illinois University in DeKalb and colleagues measured levels of the stress hormone cortisol in 13 men and women at an S&M party in Arizona, before, during and after participating in activities. During S&M scenes, cortisol rose significantly in those receiving stimulation, but dropped back to normal within 40 minutes if the scene went well. There was no change in those inflicting the activity.

At an S&M event in Colorado, testosterone was measured in 45 men and women. It increased significantly in receiving women only. Donatella Marazziti of the University of Pisa, Italy, says the boost may help women cope with the aggressive nature of S&M activities, or that it could be another sign of stress. In both studies, couples who said the party went well also reported increases in relationship closeness (Archives of Sexual Behavior, DOI: 10.1007/s10508-008-9374-5).

It's important to note that levels of both hormones dropped back down in couples who enjoyed the experience, Marazziti says. "When sexual intercourse is consensual it is not stressful - even if it is extreme sex."

Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire in Hatfield, UK, adds that almost any shared activity is likely to promote interpersonal closeness. "It doesn't have to be tying up your partner or placing clamps on their nipples, it could be something as simple as cooking a meal together or even doing the housework as a duo," he says.

Nick Neave, a psychologist at the University of Northumbria, UK, says the results are interesting, but future studies should control for whether participants experienced orgasm, which is associated with reduced stress and an increase in hormones associated with partner-bonding and affection.

Housework? Ha, I'd rather have the flogging! :whip:

The Secret of a Happy Marriage

The secret to a happy marriage is knowing when it's time to go....no wait, that's wrong somehow...

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce (Post 551427)

Don't. :headshake

:notworthy:

Jokes aside, this guy spent time confirming that people who like S&M are happier after they've experienced some? Well, duh.

lol Clod. That's kind of what went through my mind, but not nearly so succinctly.

There's only one way to have a happy marriage, and as soon
as I learn what it is, I'll get married again.
---Clint Eastwood

We're a bunch of cynical old sods, aren't we? :D

Exactly, Clod... people who go to S&M parties .. umm.. like S&M. Talk about needing a control group . . .

I heard about this yesterday night. And people always wondered why my housemates and I never fight.

Its the housework.

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Originally Posted by SteveDallas (Post 551813)

Exactly, Clod... people who go to S&M parties .. umm.. like S&M. Talk about needing a control group . . .

That would be the B&D party down the hall.

What a disappointment.

I feel like Edison, successfully finding things that *don't* work. Your "secret" is intact.

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Originally Posted by SteveDallas (Post 551813)

... people who go to S&M parties .. umm.. like S&M.

Spainiards and Mexicans? Well, I studied a little Spanish in high school...

:D

Spray for 'six times longer' sex

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7987061.stm

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Originally Posted by Brianna (Post 553832)

Spainiards and Mexicans? Well, I studied a little Spanish in high school...

:D

What was his name?

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Originally Posted by ZenGum (Post 553892)

What was his name?

Steve Martin - an old, old bit.

My ex and I were riding the ferry at Put-in-Bay, and a bunch of mexican guys were hanging around the cars below. We were on the top deck. One of the guys yelled up to me "Hey, do you have a little Mexican in you?" I thought it was because of my coloring, and I replied no. He said "Do you want one?"

We laughed and laughed.

how come everybody thought jinx was Mexican? Didn't she have a sig line like "Only LOOKS Mexican" - ? Or am I thinking of someone else? coz I made a lot of jokes about that to her.....hm.......

eta: I like a bit of s&m. Not too much. Just Vanilla S&M. Nothing too...death defying. maybe I'm not really well versed enough in it to say...I guess I just like to be bitten now and again...vampire-y.

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Originally Posted by Brianna (Post 553938)

eta: I like a bit of s&m. Not too much. Just Vanilla S&M...

It's not really S&M if the only thing getting whipped is the cream!

:D

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Originally Posted by Sheldonrs (Post 554013)

It's not really S&M if the only thing getting whipped is the cream! :D

Teach Me!

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Originally Posted by Brianna (Post 554047)

Teach Me!

Grow a penis!

see? Sheldon hates me.

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Originally Posted by Queen of the Ryche (Post 554172)

And Flint is crazy.

I'm really starting to bond with you, Queen.

It's true, Flint is crazy. Every so often though he posts something that completely blows my mind and makes me think he is one of those frighteningly clever people. Madness and genius eh?

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Originally Posted by Brianna (Post 554167)

see? Sheldon hates me.

Nope. Just the dirth of dick. :D

(and the plethora of pussy)

I think you meant dearth...I can see how you made that mistake. Clearly you were thinking about cock and the word girth crept in. *grins*

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Originally Posted by Brianna (Post 553938)

how come everybody thought jinx was Mexican? Didn't she have a sig line like "Only LOOKS Mexican" - ? Or am I thinking of someone else? coz I made a lot of jokes about that to her.....hm.......
.

that was just one of my random user titles......you sucker.

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Originally Posted by DanaC (Post 554187)

It's true, Flint is crazy. Every so often though he posts something that completely blows my mind and makes me think he is one of those frighteningly clever people. Madness and genius eh?

You have no idea... brilliant, hillarious though often exasperating and still somehow endering enough to make it near impossible to stay irritated at him once you see his face... which I'm sorry you guys miss out on... or maybe I not... lol

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Originally Posted by Sheldonrs (Post 554074)

Grow a penis!

Did you realise that is an anagram of Spiro Agnew?

didn't he give tricky dick a hand back in the day?

ha ha !

Tricky Dick!

Slick Willie!

we American's LURVE our peni.

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Originally Posted by Sheldonrs (Post 554194)

Nope. Just the dirth of dick. :D

(and the plethora of pussy)

Nope. I was thinking of Star Wars. Dirth Vader. :D

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Originally Posted by DanaC (Post 554187)

It's true, Flint is crazy. Every so often though he posts something that completely blows my mind and makes me think he is one of those frighteningly clever people. Madness and genius eh?

I read this post with particular interest, because I count you among the people who is qualified to make both of these determinations.

Congratulations! You have become the recipient of a Flint-Style Compliment™
If any psychological distress is experienced, do NOT call Flint for technical support.

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Originally Posted by Flint

Congratulations! You have become the recipient of a Flint-Style Compliment™
If any psychological distress is experienced, do NOT call Flint for technical support.

You may be crazy, but you're "funny-crazy." :)

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Originally Posted by TheMercenary (Post 553890)

Spray for 'six times longer' sex

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7987061.stm

Yeah I heard about this spray but its not on the market yet. Do not really have PE but sometimes do get erectile dysfunction. That can put a marriage on ice, :thepain:

Separate bathrooms.

:D

My honest answer is to follow the only rule of all relationships. The Golden One. Treat others like you want to be treated.