Brianna banned by request
 

Bri bugged me over and over to ban her before the 24-hour timeout I encouraged, so I've done it.

WTF? I mean seriously WTF?

I take a day off to watch footsballs and ... what the heck happened?

I think I was standing there but damndifino.

whut?:eek:

Did she give a reason?

General knowledge question: why should anyone ask to be banned? Is this a Hotel California sort of forum, or - well, why would I not just cancel my subscription myself if I wanted to go?
~Puzzled

for the drama!

I think it's a willpower issue. Like an alcoholic asking someone to lock up the liquor cabinet.

Can someone find and post the relevants to this thread please?

Bri was being very sweet in the last posts I read - usually she goes loco before she asks to be banned.

I can understand you're only acceding to her wishes UT, but an idea of why she was asking would help the rest of us. If it's all PM I get why you can't.

Ummm....ok.....

Oh wait...I found something...
http://cellar.org/showpost.php?p=523899&postcount=31

Just found it too.
Oh dear.

well she'll get back on her meds shortly i Bet

Whatever few clues she may have given me were probably meant for me alone.

Fair enough. Just wondered.

This sucks.

Do us a favor, UT.... quietly unban her after a little bit so she can come back when she's sorted herself out a little...?

I think reading that one isolated post is not representative of the situation. One would need to read the whole " Hey! Merc" thread to get a better understanding - if one is to be had.

She's not IP-banned; she could just start another account if she wanted to come back.

cool

Here's an idea for an experiment: unplug the Cellar for a month and see who's still alive when you bring it back up.

Doing that might save some lives, HLJ. Has anyone ever forgone food for their addiction to the cellar? I am thinking maybe we need a poll.

During the begining of last year I stopped posting for a while. I still lurked, but basically had nothing to say.

It was a good move for me. I had too much personal stuff I needed to sort out. I lost my objectivity when it came to this place so I stopped talking and just decided to watch.

It's amazing how much you learn about people from watching what they say and not interacting yourself. It's also interesting how much you can learn about yourself in hindsight which if you're lucky, you can put into practice in the future.

I'm rather concerned and disturbed about this.

Edit: The single post citation showing a battle with Ali is *not* likely to be a single significant event for Bri. She's been here too long and seen too much to let a single clusterfuck do the job. There's more going on, and I, being the nancyboy I am, am worried about her.

Well, I know where she'll be for about eight hours a week. I could stalk her. ;)

Don't worry Els, she'll be ok. If she wants to step away for a while, and feels she needs to lock the door on herself, then that's just how it is.

I doubt any one row did this.

She's ok.

When she's ready, she knows how to reach people without going through PMs here.

But... I want Bri back...
Pweeze Bri? Cuz the little guy axked ya real nicely? with a cherry on top?

UT, I'm sure you did what you could to dissaude her, and I'm sure you reminded here that every time she asked to be banned, god killed a kitten, so she must have needed it. The banning, I mean. Needed the banning.

That's my suspicion footer: she felt it was healthy for her to move away from it. Maybe that she didn't like what it turned her into, to become combative with people, but that she felt she couldn't resist it either. As an addict, her healthy method for dealing with such a problem is to completely remove it from her life, cold turkey.

Wherever did you find a cherry in this place?!!!


:D

We imported one from England. ;)

Cheeky!

We have cherries in England?



I was pretty sure we'd lost all ours.... (present company excepted)

Aw this sucks. I hope Bri gets back to a place where she can feel comfortable re-joining us.

You're confusing me moar. I thought this was that place.

I'll sure miss her. Especially since She gave me the head pat.
I think , rather than asking UT to ban me if I ever get like that I will just avoid alt + s.

please come back...

It was like watching someone with a zit cut off their face. The cure being worse than the condition.

Fixed it for ya.

In Bri's defense, since as far as I've been able to see we can and should defend those who deserve defending as a courtesy extended beyond those who might not need or deserve defending, her buttons were pushed and pushed and pushed. It is nice for those who take these situations with a grain of salt, and that is a trait I myself envy. Create havoc and whistle on down the road, feeling good, is a trait I think the devil himself invented.

We all know she has had some hard times. There is a level of coldness shown to those who dare suffer here; compassion is only the name of the game if the behavior still fits the category of not being hard to watch.

Though many behaviors are much, much, much more disturbing (such as enjoying hurting and watching people writhe) our society is still fundamentally unable to comprehend human conditions beyond that which does not make us fear for our own minds.

We can all commisserate, and we care, about a lost job, or a passing illness, or such things. This understanding is our "good."

When it's deeper than those sorts of things it's easier and more acceptable to hope it goes away. This lack of understanding is our "bad."

I'm not talking about the Cellar except as it pertains to being a microcosm of the world.

We love you Bri. If you read this, know that.

Beautiful...quite.

I don't understand why someone who can beat alcohol and cancer and whatever other adversity she's had to overcome in her life would run away from a conflict with one or two known assholes. I would have thought she'd stand and fight....I am surprised and vaguely disappointed that these people were not called out and asked to change. It's kind of like watching your team give up during a playoff game. I will miss Bri. She's one of the good guys. I know I can still talk to her, but i enjoy her zany cellar style and fearless honesty. She's unique. She's worth 20 of the cocks that ruined this thing for her.

This place has a certain utility for some of us. By that I mean, we all get something out of sharing our stories and feelings and rants. We may even NEED the interaction because we do not or cannot get it in our real lives, for whatever reason. Maybe it's just the LEVEL of interaction we get here that we need. I'm sad for Claudette that she won't get it here anymore. I hope she gets it somewhere. (I hope she gets it in the dupa with no lube, at the moment) Anyway.... when you get so involved in hating on one or two other people that you no longer like the whole place, or maybe you dont like the way YOU'VE become, I guess you have to leave.

To the people that made her so mad that she did this I could offer a big 'fuck you', but they are really not to blame. Assholes act like assholes every day. they spew shit and smell bad. that's what they do. She chose her course of action, and made the decision to leave us all behind. She did. Not them. I don't think it was even their intent, for her to leave. Yes, it sucks that people are mean or aggravating. Yes, it sucks that she's gone and they're still here. Yes, we'll miss her.

But Bri, UR DOING IT WRONG

I got this little tidbit in a PM today from someone I consider wise:
Maybe if we all close our eyes and wish really hard, Brianna will come back....like when tinkerbell dies in peter pan.

Very nicely said jim.

I can't possibly know what's in Bri's head. I can say I have met, once or twice, the feelings that rise up when the place you do count on for so many things that perhaps we are not getting in real life starts to feel like a hostile place. Even though it is not, it feels that way, and that hurts so much that you have to run...much like a cornered critter.

You (not you you, you as in some of us you, as in me anyway) acquiesce, you smart back, you make jokes, you argue, you grin, you learn, you cry, you feel...and sometimes when it gets to feel like just too much, when you've let your walls down way more than you ever thought you'd dare, and you sense danger, you run. You run through the thickest brush and don't care about the cuts you get on the way out because you just have to get away. In fact, if you escape without injury, whether self or other-inflicted...you just come back the next day. You might laugh at your own behavior. But when you're injured...you self preserve. You come out of that corner you felt driven into fighting, as if all the power you have left is dedicated to that one last chance at survival.


At least, I think I understand her in that way...though I don't dare to pretend I could really understand anyone beyond myself. And that is even iffy.

It I posted even half the things I type in this little bitty box, my post-count would be around 4k. Instead, I usually look at what I've written and think "Naaah."

I miss Bri too. I liked her... perspective.

Give her a chance to cool down.

When her time away has allowed her to move past what led her to leave in the first place then she'll be back as the Bri we all know and love. If she is persuaded into coming back too soon, she won't be her old self yet.

These things can take time.

Anyone who says they don't miss her is more than likely lieing. I know I would be.There are only a few dwellars that I dislike a little. But if they dropped out I'd miss them too. It takes all kinds. That's the main reason I love this place.
C'mon back, Bri. Or I'll call you Claudette, too.

the worst part is that she's out there....with marichiko..in bannedsville.

No way![shudder] M*** has been banished. Bri is just taking a break.

90% of the button pushing that occurred with Bri was loving, meant in good fun. The other 10% was done by people who, IMHO, live to fuck with others. You know...Trolls.

We have them here. You all know who they are.

One thing I can say about Bri's departure...she was smart enough to know when she was allowing herself to be fucked with with no love or respect involved, and she got away from it.

Those of you who perpetrated/perpetrate that shit...fuck you. You know who you are. Grow up, and learn to appreciate The Cellar, and especially the Dwellars herein for the real, flesh and blood, feeling people they are.

If it weren't for the fact that most Dwellars *are* by and large decent, humane and cool folk, I wouldn't be here.

I'm hoping this is the case. Nobody else rolls like Bri rolls.

For those of you who blame me for this, do you care to hear what I have to say, or would you prefer me to just leave you to it?

Thank you Shawnee and Elspode, for saying things so well.

Love you Bri. Lots.

Jim, if that is a t shirt I will buy one. That is gold.

No one gives a shit Ali. Let it go. I don't blame you for her departure. It was something she did, not something you did to her. Anyone who blames you a is a cock. JMHO.

Sort of like suicide. A most selfish act.

So it looks like she is back anyway as a new nick. In chat anyway.

no...you were acting like a dick. bri wasn't even there....the 4 people that left because you were acting like a jerkoff were NOT brianna.

Sure, whatever. I was being honest to a group who I thought would be a understanding bunch. But someone, and thanks to someone there I know who, thought it was ok to say that I should put my 87 year old mother to sleep like I did my dog. Great defense cock.

details

come back and act like a human

we're over it

yea. me too.