Who's crazier: the wife's mom, or the husband's?
 

So, you and your MIL don't get along. But your spouse loves your mom. Right?

D'oh, and I can't spell. But what's new.
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Well, I've never said anything bad about my MIL to my wife, and she's never said anything bad about my mom to me. But, she has said her mom drives her crazy (and I secretly agree) but I've never said anything bad about my mom.

Got it? Her mom is the problem. But she means well.

I assume you meant "carzier."

Karzai-er?
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i'm waiting for jinx to reply first

Both our moms are dead. But when they were alive...well, they were both pretty nice.

My FIL, on the other hand....

My wife will be the first to admit that her mother is an evil bitch who has caused many of the problems her daughters have had. I smile and nod. My mom is nuts, but not evil. We both agree on that.

My mom is crazier, but she's pretty aware of it and makes a point not to push her weirdness on other people, while his mom is less crazy but oblivious to her own behavior. So in the end, his is more irritating IMHO.

My mom isn't crazy, just lazy. Not involved in my life really, or my daughters unfortunately. If I don't call and essentially beg her to come down to see her granddaughter, I don't think she ever would. We just really have never been that close, and after my dad died, it actually got worse.

My in laws are actually really great. They even hosted my college graduation party when I got my bachelor's, and Red and I were only just dating. They have been more like the parents I wished I had. Red has a far better relationship with his family than I do with mine. My MIL doesn't butt in or spout off (at least to me) about my parenting, or my housekeeping, or my career. If I ask her opinion or advice, I can usually count on pretty solid info, or a flat out "you've got to figure it out on your own." She uses the silent treatment though when she is pissed off, so actually no news might not always be good news if YKWIM.

I'm not just saying this because Red might read it either. We have had multiple discussions about what I don't like about my mom, and how I can not turn into her ;) (too badly anyway)

mine hands down. beest's mom is great. mine's a loony.

Here, you all dropped this :


Ooh, that"s soooooo wrong! Bwahahahahahahaaa.

My mom passed on years ago, but my MIL is a nutter.

My wife agrees. She's told me some of the crazy things she has done...

Anorexic...still eats like a bird. No pork (dunno why) and is still a bit of a slut.

Everything had to be "sexy" when my wife was young. Tell that to a fat girl. Obesity runs strong in their family.

Takes a week to eat a candy bar. True.

Tried every drug/diet to get Mary to lose weight. May have fucked up her system in the process. Even demanded prescriptions of doctors against their better judgment. It's a wonder Mary isn't more screwed up than she already is.

There is tons more but I'd be violating her privacy too much.

MIL is nuts, for sure. SIL is right behind her.

Brian

My mother...by a mile (or a hundred).

His mother and his step-mother are adorable.

My MIL died last Feb. When she was alive she was not involved much in our lives or our kids, but she depended on us for lots of other things and support, sort of a one way street. We still loved her in a arms lenght kinda way.

My mom is nuttier than hell. She is in a Assisted living home in Okla. She has been nutty all her life. My brother grew pot in his room when I was a kid and she would come in an water it for him. She never knew what it was but she took care of it til he harvested it. It had great big buds on it and he had taken out all the male plants so you could imagine what it looked like. A bonsi sex starved female pot plant. :D Yea, she was pretty nutty.

No contest--my MIL drove us both nuts.

I've stolen Randy Pausch's line from The Last Lecture when I say I won the parent lottery. When I was married, my mom was a great MIL, in my opinion. She's very respectful and supportive, and very unobtrusive. She's wonderful; I think my ex would agree.

I did not have a MIL, as ex'es mom died when he was 5 years old. She, by all accounts, was an extremely intelligent and classy woman.

But my FIL...I still consider him as a dad. You just couldn't find a better man, with the exception of my dad, and my ex would agree there as well.

I crack up when I watch Everybody Loves Raymond because of Marie. Can you imagine? I guess some don't have to imagine, they're living that very thing! ;)

Gah...both nuts over here. My mom had 5 children so I guess she earned the right. She had 3 crazy boys and no money at first. That's enough for anyone to go out of their mind. She's crazy...I know...but I love her. She taught me a lot of valuable things. My husband however, does not see any good qualities.

Both our mothers are crazy in such unique ways that I couldn't possibly name one as crazier. I like my mother more, but she also pisses me off way worse... Jims mom, meh, we just don't get along.

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With the number of crazy mil's being posted about in this thread Im not looking forward to becoming one. It seems its UNAVOIDABLE!

Both are a little crazy. One is more so. Guess which?

Aah. My mom called after I posted in this thread. Especially crazy today, like she knows or something...Unusually caustic about the presidential candidates with an air of false secrecy, that being said, my MIL is too crazy to ever speak to, ever...so maybe my MIL wins this category.

One got the lazy gene the other got the CRAZY GENE

With such great parents I wonder why your marriage went south.:confused:

Hmmm, not sure what that has to do with my marriage. I know that often coming from a good household makes a good household...but still...

A thousand reasons. A thousand wonder whys. A thousand things to point to yet another hundred what ifs...

It's a long long story that I don't retell. Suffice to say we both are at fault, and leave it at that.

Ouch, think you hit a sore spot. Pain never really leaves you, does it?

:(

huh? my parents hated each other and when they divorced after 12 years it was a relief to us all. Beest and I have been together for 19 years and are not quitting any time soon

I think he was referring to them all being great to Shawnee. Including the in-laws.

right... so... ? Mine were not great parents, and weren't nice tobeest for the little time they saw him but I have a good marriage, maybe I'm a lucky exception? Maybe theinverse is not implied? I just don't think the comment has any logical basis :headshake

I think what Mr.Foot was getting at was that in many cases the apples don't fall far from the trees upon which they grew. Or in the case of people type persons the parents who totally fucked up their heads. Scratch that, I meant raised them.

So I think Mr. Foot was saying, "Gee, you both liked your parents and in laws, (uncommon) and you both agreed they were swell folks and you still like them, and if you like the parents it might stand to reason that you'd probably like their kid, assuming some of the personality characteristics wore off on them, so if it wasn't an issue like that, then it must have been that you both were making love on top of an enormous pile of cash and you paused, and looked into one another's eyes and said, "This has just got to stop."

But then again, I know for a fact that Mr. Foot sometimes has more than his share of beverages.

My MIL is nuttier than a squirrel house, and my mother can't keep a secret to save her life. -sighs- I'm trying to avoid talking to either of them for a while.