Why aren't you pursuing your dreams?
 

So, why not?

(pursing/pursuing -- you know what I mean, dammit)

Because I did it seven years ago and I'm still in six figures of family debt.

good question.

I did decide to make a career change. I seem to think I can change things sometimes even when it isn't in my best interest to do so. It took me four years in a dead end job to realize it was a dead end job. I am an eternal optimist.

Because I don't have any, really. Unless very early retirement counts. In that case, it's money.

It all comes down to cold hard cash. Sad, but true.

My answer is family obligations, but I would like to register dissatisfaction with the term obligation in my case. I chose to have this family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Now that I think about it, pursuing the dream of having kids is obviously more important to me than my career dreams, so I guess I am pursuing my dreams after all.

I am.

I count myself successful. I'm doing what I want to do. For me, that entails all aspects of the various roles I fill: husband, father, man; I place the welfare of my family at the top of my priorities, and then do what it takes to reach that goal.

I have multiple goals, dreams. I am in various stages of progress on all of them, but it is much more the journey than the destination. Money, time, family obligations, job, those are all tools and materials I use to transform my dreams into realities. It's a daily process for me, mostly forward, but always moving.

Dreams?

Well I learned the intro to Desperado on keyboard yesterday...

I'm in the process of getting a neck to start my guitar building project...

uhhhh....

:ghost: I prefer to pursue my nightmares!

They all got married. ;)

I have many dreams. I am pursuing some but others have been shelved due to practical considerations.

Primarily, I've always wanted a family; children, spouse, pets, living in a home I adore with with enough money to survive. This dream is a reality. I get to stay home with the children, work from home, and pinch pennies until they squeak to make ends meet. ;) I love my family dearly and they are my priority.

I want to be a good person. I want to be able to look back at my actions and feel that I acted honorably and with integrity. I want to live as an example of the principles I hold dear. I want to grow as a person, expand my knowledge and continue to improve myself throughout my lifetime. This is not a dream with a finish line, but I believe I am making it a reality on a daily basis.

One dream I had was to travel. I fulfilled that one (before I had children). I was able to travel around the world and I visited 14 countries. I had the opportunity to see the Parthenon and Acropolis, the pyramids of Eqypt, boat down the Nile, scuba dive in the Red Sea, swim in the Dead Sea, visit the Edinburgh Castle, tease the guards at Buckingham Palace, feel the spray of water from Niagera Falls, walk from junk to junk in Singapore Harbor, and many other amazing places. One of the most memorable trips was the time I lived aboard a 44 ft sailboat and traveled through the Bahamas for a few months.

I would like to write a book. That dream has been started but is unfinished. For the time being, I often write poetry or share my stories on select message boards. It satisfies the itch to write...somewhat, anyway.

I would like a career working with books. This is probably not going to happen. My career seems to have evolved in the financial field and owning a bookshop or becoming a book editor this late in life is unlikely. That's ok though. I can still read them by the truckload!

I wanted to be a model/actress as a young girl. I worked for a while as a catalog model and made a television commercial. My first husband cut that dream off at the knees (jealousy I suppose) but I did accomplish a little something before that happened.

So, I'm quite satisfied with the dreams I've fulfilled and not terribly disappointed with the ones that fell by the wayside. I'm much too determined to give up on something I truly want. :D

Stormie

If you haven't, already, I'd really enjoy if you shared some stories from your adventures here on The Cellar!

I haven't enough spine.

Because I keep running into these guys...

http://lafayettepolice.us/employment...ent/FEWGOODMEN

My wife has been on me to finish the screenplay I have been working on for some time... I will. Have to get used to working while in pain.
I did work as an actor, playwright and screenwriter/artist of many kinds.
I also loved insurance, sounds crazy, took it as a day-job when I needed it and just fell in love with it. It is very creative, each call/policy is different, creative and every single thing I did was purely altruistic with the company I worked with... so, I loved it.

I need to be able to pick more than one answer!

That would be other.

Do you want that fixed, or do you like the charm of the current version?

My reason for not pursuing, is pursing, so to speak.

It's about money.

What I would like to do, I would only be able to do comfortably if I had enough of a financial safety net in place to allow me to focus on the work, rather than the marketing.

Fine...other it is...

Fixed would be good -- I didn't catch it until it was too late. (thank you!)

I left the poll as only permitting one selection because, based on my experiences, there would be a general desire to select almost all of them. I also think that most of the restrictions we perceive are generally illusions placed on us by society, culture, and ourselves.

Oh... that and I'm not a young Asian girl... that too.

Viola.

I don't know what my dream is. I used to know---then, it flew off and i can't recall it...

time and money.....time and money.... and family time, and home maitenance, and .....

Don't take this the wrong way UT, but you think too small. To wit:

If you owe the bank $100,000. and you can't pay them, *you* have a problem.

If you owe the bank$100,000,000. and you can't pay them, the *bank* has a problem.

As for me, I am pursuing my dream in a methodical, plodding, elephant eating fashion. That is, one bite at a time.

I've always preffered being slightly cash poor but wealthy in personal satisfaction to the reverse. Having been self employed for so long has made me less averse to uncertainty than the average bear. It has also made goals materialize more slowly than if I just went to the bank and borrowed lots of cash and then spent the next 30 years paying it all off.

I know a lot of people who have a colossal monthly nut the crack just to make their minimum payments. Their dreams seem more nightmarish to me.

If you owe a family member $100,000, everybody has a problem.

Not according to Ayn Rand, motherf*cker. And, she's packing.

I guess my dream is...... to have dreams again. But I am basically doing what I want to do. If I were rich I could do it better.

You just need to have that family member start a bank, then make you CEO...


Wait, that plot sounds familial.
-ar. Familiar.

Packing?

How is Ayn these days? I've been meaning to ring her up.

because i have to figure out what they are now. just as i achieved most of them someone ripped them out through my nose and set them on fire.

beestie, please tell me that those aren't strippers at your local genital on gentleman's club.

I'm still working on it.