Who's bed have your boots been under?
 

Inspired by the Do guys care... thread. The number 35 was mentioned as being a lot, and that got me to thinking. Is that a lot? Is that just a start on a lot?

How many lovers has the average cellarite had?

It depends, I think.

Ten seems like a lot to some of us...

Is this an anonymous poll or what? I need to know.

Oh, and I am NOT one of the pollsters who said 90+ lovers.

Yes.

There's no option for zero...

Wow - I'm in the "norm" for once. Feels kinda strange - kinda weird.

Id really have to think to get an accurate number...thats kinda sad I know... but I dont feel like thinking back over the past 10 years and analyzing my bad choices ... so I just guessed

Age factors into it, as well. At 20, I'd had one lover, at 54, I've had 20 -30 (really don't feel like going back in the memory banks and counting each one exactly.

Is this the numbers of lovers you've had or the number of ladys with whom you had sex?

Hmm, there needs to be a zero option.
I would feel lame about saying that, only I'm 16, so I don't.

I edited the poll to include the zero option, but when I saved it, the zero option was removed. I'm gonna go ahead and guess that the software thinks "0" means no input in that field. I changed it to "none" and that worked.

What, men don't count?

Apparently I forgot to whine about "under whose bed" vs. "who's been sleeping in my bed". Consider it whined about. That and "ladies" vs. "ladys"; surely if ending a preposition is something up with which we will not put, we can get our plurals, posessives and contractions correct.

Hmmm...lots of cognitive dissonance out there amongst the senor players. :-)

Ohhh thanks Lookout, I was actually thinking about starting a thread like this, but couldnt figure out whether to put ages in or not.

I dont have a definitive number, so I took a guess, I am hoping it was on the generous side. :p

Have you been told today? If not consider it done.

I'll consider "lovers" synonymous with "people you've had sex with".

So that makes.... 7. Lucky number 7!

I don't think its so much cognitive dissonance, as embarassment about that bartender I slept with once back in S.F. in '89 when I was on a convention out in Cali that year. Then there's the guy I met in treatment, etc.,etc. Shit! Have I ever been a slut! I wanna say the real number was about 5 - the first guy I was engaged to at 19, the guy I actually married at 23, the guy I got engaged to briefly after my divorce and the ax murderer.

Alas, there were far more than that, and it is shame rather than dissonance which prevents me from digging back in memory to give a more exact accounting. :blush:

Think about all the things humans do that are TRULY shameful. They lie, cheat, judge, destroy, harm, kill, etc. Don't kick yourself for needing & giving the comfort of human contact. You know how some folks, right after the death of a loved one, want/need to make love? So it must be instinctual to procreate in the face of death...makes sense, because the act of sex is life giving. So sex is about survival, on a primal level.

It's also about love for many, and the search for it. And there's nothing wrong with wanting that.

I'm with you and others about some of the bad choices I made...I may feel some regret but not shame. And most of the regret is that I couldn't see through my own BOS clearly enough to make better choices.

Cut yourself some slack here, and get that little nun out of your head!

i'll admit it - i'm one of the 91+ sluts. not an issue i'm proud of really, but whatever. the truth is I don't regret a single one of them. not because i want that notch in the bedpost but because each and every one of them holds some different value or special spot in my memory. they were all different, each taught me something, and only one of them thinks i'm walking slime. as far as i know, anyway.

Ghod, I wasn't trying to peddle shame...and anybody who hasn't made a few mistakes in this department isn't really playing the game at all.

I confronted that "donwanna think about some of that" feeling even though there's not as many lines in my logbook. But looking back in bulk, chances are, either a particular hookup was a mistake and regrettable on that account, or it wasn't but it's over now and subject to regret that it's over.

But that's no reason to not at least embrace the good times...and any lessons learned from the not-so-good ones. :-)

Es el mismo, Hombre Que No Puede Deletrear.

And for the record, the correct answer is, "That's nobody's business but my own." :eyebrow:

It would have been interesting to see the 1-10 broken down more. I know that there are only 10 vote slots, but since that's where the larger number will go, I would have broken the higher numbers into larger ranges.

That's just my :2cents:. It's still an interesting poll. Lookout, you may be the 21st century's version of Alfred Kinsey.

It's a miracle!! Your memory is back!!

I decline to give a number in this thread on the grounds that it may incriminate me.

Who are the virgins?

I think this survey should be followed up with a second one of maybe increments of 3 from 1 to 30; it would be the more interesting breakdown, and the data from this survey could just be added on.

Although ideally it would be a full survey, including age, producing the Grand Numerical Average Of Lovers Per Year Of Cellarites.

My long term memory was never in question. Its my short term memory, especially my spatial memory. As far as I recall, I've slept with only one man since the ax murderer whom I met at the height of the CO poisoning. :p

At any rate, I became sexually active at age 18, I'm now 54, which makes - God help me - 36 years. My top end estimate is 30 lovers which gives me an average of less than one a year, so I guess I'm not as much of a slut as I think.

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Oh yeah? Each one is special, huh? What are their names? :lol:

Nice disclaimer...if you slipped out of the apartment before they woke up. Assuming you spent the night, of course. :-)

Bruce - i won't pretend to remember all of their names well enough to recite them, but i do actually remember each person i've been with. i've never been the "let's get drunk and see what happens" type, so i've never had the "oh shit, what did i do" wake up terror.

Maggie - i've never snuck out before morning. honestly most of the girls were referral hook ups, so that kind of stuff was never an issue.

What kind of stuff would that be?

I'm intrigued with the idea of a *referral hookup*...what is that??

I'm in the less than 10 bracket.

Less is More.

Trixie... and Bubbles... And Bunny... And...

I think it has something to do with word of mouth advertising. Some kind of viral marketing thing. :-)

Jeez Maggie, you sure have a way with words.:lol2:

OK, in chronological order it was :

Larry
Paul
Al
Ed
John
Sam
Mike
Austin
Bill
Tom
Mark
A super cute guy I had a one night stand with whose name now eludes me
Pat
John (same name as above, different guy)
Ron
Glen
Michael
John (again different guy from both of above)
Rick

If any woman in Colorado wants referral hook-ups, they would be Larry, Ed, Tom, Glen, Mark, and the jury still out on Rick. ;)

Hmmm... That doesn't add up to 30, but I could swear 30 is about the right number. Maybe I didn't have an amazing recovery of memory after all!

From a cast of thousands only two or three are memorable.

Sigh.

PS-currently I am being stalked by an ex-boyfriend via the telephone. It's getting annoying but I don't want to have to change my number. He was, of course, the abosolute WORST lay ever. Which is kinda weird as he's a doctor. Just goes to show--just coz you know where everything is doesn't mean you have any idea how to use it.

that is funny. a friend of mine just hooked up with a doctor a couple of nights ago - and he was the absolute worst lay ever. she said that she'd never had a guy before that she literally wasn't sure if they were actually having sex or not. he keeps calling her.

Too many, but one that really matters for the last sixteen years.

Oh...your wife found this thread, huh? :lol:

That ain't right!

If she isn't sure they were having sex, how can she be sure he's no good at it?

i think the point is that she just couldn't feel him at all. not at all. sometimes size does matter.

Impressive.

I think the numbers verses Brianna's 4-figure total suggest a finer method of analysis is needed. How about notches over age?

I vote no.

To manipulate the numbers to suggest that I've had fewer than one lovers in my life is too tragic to contemplate.

I didn't hear a size complaint, I heard a technique complaint. This is an important distinction. Having been on both ends of this protocol, it's a distinction I understand quite well. :-)

So it's not the size of the ship that counts, but the motion of the ocean?

<A comeback to this I've heard is, yeah..but some ships just ain't seaworthy!>.

One thing I have noticed is that it is easier to do things well when you aren't really small. So, size does matter, but not to the point where it can't be supplimented with technique.

Size is nice...up to a point. But it doesn't cover for poor technique.

No, it doesn't cover, but it seems like they usually just know how to use it better. I haven't been with that many men so it might just be I was lucky with the guys that had good techniques also had the bigger packages. But the regular sized packages are my favorite and do the best job.

That reminds me of what my SO once told me about an ex of hers. She said that his was really long, but too thin - described it as "getting poked by a twig." I never fully understood what she meant till now.

There's a song about that ... "It ain't the meat, it's the motion". I heard it performed (on disc) by Southside Johnny and the Asbury Jukes, a long time ago.
But my experience says that a guy that knows that his dick is not up to much can compensate in other ways which are just as satisfying, if not more so ... :p

Some of the best orgasms I've ever had were from a man whose penis was barely the length of my middle finger when erect. We never mentioned it (perhaps an indication that the relationship wasn't meant to last - we could do personal things but not talk about them) but I know he was sensitive about his size. After 2 years seeing eachother casually, I wish I'd reassured him that size is not necessarily important.

He said once in conversation about his teenage years, "I wish I'd had more sex and done less drugs." I replied, "I wish I'd done more drugs and had fewer partners." Not ashamed of my notches, just know some of them came from wanting to be desired & taking it too far, rather than good old fashioned lust, which I certainly don't regret.

Yeah, I've noticed that certain positions seem to work better with a little more size, but some work better with less size. ;) My new lover is a bit on the small side, but he sure knows how to make a girl feel nice in his arms, and that's what REALLY counts - in my book, anyhow!

That's easy, just force her to risk her life before-hand.

Sigh. 7 before I married. I was fairly religious for most of my youth. In my next life I'm going to be a man-whore.

And Brianna... you da bomb.

ah... +2 more. :cool: