anger
 

SWMBO recently told me that she thinks I have a lot of anger. I've polled some of my friends to get their opinions on this. Perhaps I am since they tended to equivocate.

Since you needn't spare my feelings (this is the internet after all) please weigh in with your opinions.

actually serious for once.

Don't worry Foot , be hapy :)

If you aren't outraged, you aren't paying attention. (right?)
Somewhere along the way, anger fades into apathy.

Oh, what does it matter, anyway?

foot3, you don't post angry. If you disagree, post a link to such an example. Having corresponded with you in this way, I would vote for "larkish".

Why does SWMBO's opinion concern you so, besides the obvious "O". Do you disagree with her opinion? Do you agree with it? Is it a difference of degree?

We all have anger--it's a normal part of our existence. How I repond to the anger I feel is the only part I can control, and I make a strong effort to control it. I don't like acting in anger. And I don't like being called on my anger when I'm busy controlling it. Is it like that with you?

You're all of the above, depending on the moment.

You know, just like normal people.

Thanks for the replies.
I think I am happy. Sometimes, I get annoyed, occasionally I have outbursts, as Wolf says, "like normal people".

I'm not so concerned about SWMBO's opinion, but curious because I am a frim believer in the powers of self delusion. Perhaps I most often deal with anger by turning it inward rather than raging out loud for everyone else to enjoy.

Sometimes I just have these moments of feelings of rage that wash over me for a few moments. They aren't caused by anything such as an asshole driver, for example. They only last a moment or so and pass, leaving a post adrenalin buzz.

I don't feel like hitting walls or kicking cats or anything. It's like a little rush. Anyway, I wonder if I'm just keeping a lid on anger but it is seeping out in my words and actions etc without me knowing it.

I guess I could say in regard to pie's point, yes, I am outraged by a lot of what is going on i the world right now, but I don't really let that get my hackles up.

Gonna think about it while I sleep.
hehe

There wasn't any box to check for normal. :)

The reason she came up with that opinion is the Catch 22 of all relationships with a female. They want you to TALK to them. They whine and sulk if you don't "let out your feelings" around them. They want you to "talk about what happened at work today." They ask your opinions, "Tell me what you REALLY think." So you do. AND THEN..... :smashfrea

I dunno, Foot. You don't come off over the Internet as angry, but never having met you in person, I don't really feel qualified to vote on the subject. Why would SWMBO make such a comment? What was going on when SWMBO said that? Did the comment come out of the clear blue sky? What does SWMBO stand for, anyhow?

SWMBO...she who must be obeyed.

SWMBI...she who must be ignored...

SWIVA...She who is very annoying.....

I think they're interchangable. Well, the last two are anyway. I don't obey anyone *G*

a wise person once said: never go to bed angry.

so if you and the missus got issues, try to air 'em out before hitting the hay.

...or the sex will be angry sex. Which is only fun if you're both into it.

Can I start a thread titled: Brianna's Boudoir?

Yes.

A word I say more and more, and, with mounting enthusiasm: YES! OHGOD! YES!!!!!

She said "mounting."

With, enthusiasm.
With enthusiasm. :lol:

I think anger is a waste of ones energy

Secret to a long life - get even more often. ;)

maybe she meant 'mountain'...?

...second thoughts....

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A Poison Tree
Poem lyrics of A Poison Tree by William Blake.

I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe;
I told it not, my wrath did grow.

And I water'd it in fears,
Night & morning with my tears;
And I sunned it with my smiles
And with soft deceitful wiles.

And it grew both day and night,
Till it bore an apple bright;
And my foe beheld it shine,
And he knew that it was mine,

And into my garden stole
When the night had veil'd the pole:
In the morning glad I see
My foe outstretch'd beneath the tree

Mrs Elspode has often pointed out to me that I have an anger problem. In particular, I get angry when I am hurt emotionally. Instead of getting weepy and sensitive and insecure, I get *pissed*. Apparently, this is an inappropriate response to such slights.

For me, getting sober took most of the edge off of anger, and I've learned to do the equivalent of "counting to 10" (which, in my case, is more like counting to 150 or so), giving myself time to let the circumstance which provoked my anger to subside so I can examine my response before making it.

Also...antidepressants helped a lot. I have no idea if any of my experience has anything in common with yours, though.

all my anger turns inward. I've a lot of anger.

Plus time to load an pre-ban clip and plan the attack. :lol:

Els, I can relate to what you say. Being buzzed on beer can just make me veer further in the direction I'm headed wether it is giddyness or anger. It's been years since I was on antidepressants, so I don't remember anything beyond yawning a lot and not sleeping.

I think in the future I may just use a variant of the "you smelt it you dealt it" defense.
;)

Bah. That's cult-talk! Just today anger allowed me to pound a dent into a wall with my head! The Miracle of Anger! (I should charge admission to view it).

!!!!!YES, that's what I'm talking about.!!!
*tears of laughter*