Trilby
 

Prolly nothing and I'm worrying unnecessarily, but: Tril's facebook page has been deactivated. I noticed it a couple of days ago shortly after her last posting (Wednesday). I've PMd her but she hasn't been back on since, I don't think...


As I say, it's probably nowt, but given recent weeks I'm a little concerned. Has anybody been in contact since Wednesday?

I just tried to call her after reading this. Went to voicemail. I said to let me know how she is doing if she can.

Probably nothing, as you said...but the fb thing is rather odd. :(

I will let you know if i hear from her.

*nods* Thanks, Inf.

This is incredibly hard to write... Trilby has achieved the ultimate peace on Thursday morning March 7th. Our beautiful mother truly loved this community. She was full of love for all the people in her life and we will miss her so very much. She was an exceptional mother and the pain we feel for losing her is too great to explain. We thank you for supporting our mom and we will report back to you with updates. Much love, Taylor (23) and Danny (21)-her two sons.

God damnit.:mad:

This can't be true can it?

Oh man. This is terrible.

We will miss her. She was one of my favorite Dwellers.

I am so sorry for your loss, Taylor and Danny.

shit shit shit shit

Oh no. Oh god I can't believe it.

Danny and Taylor, my deepest condolences to you on such a terrible Loss. I can only begin to imagine your pain.

Your mum was a wonderful person, a truly unique and beautiful soul. I was honoured to count her a friend.

damn IT !!!!!!!

Very sad news.

Taylor and Danny, thank you very much for making the effort to let us know. My condolences to you.

What? Fucking what?

shit what? OMG!

Her name was Claudette Coulter.

J is driving up from Wilmington... I don't know what to think... this is just terrible...

Jesus, this has made me so very sad.

Danny and Taylor, thank you for taking the time to let us know. Your mom was loved by people here from around the world, and we will miss her deeply.

So very sad to hear this

Coulter, Claudette Marie
Service By: Routsong
Service Date: March 14, 2013
Location: Kettering Routsong Funeral Home
COULTER, Claudette Marie, age 49, of Kettering, OH passed away March 7, 2013 in Dayton, OH. Claudette was born on February 29, 1964 in Dayton, OH to Jim and Jeri Coulter. She received her Registered Nursing degree from Sinclair College and a Bachelor's degree in English from Wright State University. Claudette worked as a nurse until her retirement. She was an avid reader and lover of arts and literature. Claudette is survived by her sons, Taylor and Daniel ; sisters Kathleen (Bob) Sandman and Melissa (Randall) Davis; and numerous nieces and nephews. The family of Claudette would like to send their deepest gratitude to Dr. Bonie for all the compassion and care she gave Claudette. The memorial service will be held at 4:00pm on Thursday March 14, 2013 at Routsong Funeral Home, 2100 East Stroop Rd., Kettering. Family will greet friends following the service until 6:30pm. Contributions can be made in memory of Claudette to 4 Paws For Ability, 253 Dayton Ave., Xenia, Ohio 45385.

Fuck.

Just no fucking way. No.no.

omg

Taylor and Danny, I'm so sorry. I met your mom, she was so proud of you both and such a lovely lady. I can't believe this. well I can but I don't want to. I will try to get there on Thursday, but I don't think I can -I'm a swim coach for my sons' team and they have their first meet.

or someone. anyone with her number. time diff from eastern is 5 hours. so 2am eastern should be ok. mo make it more like 3 or 4, it's saturday there

It doesn't seem possible somehow. She was just posting here a couple days ago.

Just heart-breaking.

Wow... Shocked and saddened. Taylor and Dan, your mom loved you both very much. I'm so sorry. NO words ....

enough death. damn it. i'm surrounded by too much of it

I am at a rare loss for words. I will miss your sharp wit and caring heart, my friend.

I was only thinking yesterday that I would Facebook her and see how the new dog was settling in.

Claudette will be greatly missed, she was a great friend... listened and made me smile when I went through some things a couple of years ago.

Plus, she thought I was funny =]

She will now be surrounded by strippers and drinking from the beer volcano.

Xxx

Oh no. Oh no, no. Omg.

Taylor and Danny ... please accept my condolences. Your mother was so proud of you.

I'll miss her so much. Her wit and generosity made all the difference for me during a very difficult time.

Memory eternal.

Thank you Taylor and Danny: you've been most gracious. Condolences on your loss. I wish that all good things didn't have to come to an end; but, best wishes to you both during this difficult time.

Taylor and Danny, I'm so very sorry.

God damn, God Damn, God Damn!

I was really worried when she started to post about going to bed with both alcohol and tranquilizers. I sent her a pm begging her to reach out for help to AA or somebody, ANYBODY! She never replied.

This is such terrible, sad news.

I've got Sundae's number, I think. Anyone willing to make the call PM me ASAP. I'm old and fading fast.

I am so sorry. Our deepest condolences.

This is so horribly sad.

This is such terrible news. Taylor and Danny - thank you so much for letting us know and my thoughts are with you as you try to come to terms with your loss. Your mum was a truly lovely person, and a great friend. She will be remembered with love by all who knew her.

I have broken the news to Sundae on the phone.

Got up this morning and still can't believe it.

I loved her so much.
My last PM from her was re her birthday card:

I didn't reply.
But I did speak to her last Friday.
She called on Thursday - when I was in London with Mum - and talked to Dad. He said they had a lovely chat. Which must have been mostly Bri, Dad being a bit deaf and confused by accents - although she had a lovely speaking voice.

I called her back Friday and she told me she'd had to give her new puppy back. She cried, but we were able to laugh. She said she was so proud of me for losing weight and we talked seriously about the problems both of us have with alcohol. She was always my confidant and cheerleader.

She was the best friend I never met.
We had so much we'd dreamed of, what we planned to do.
I cannot take in that she is dead. I can't comprehend that I will never be able to PM her about victories and failures again. That I will never be able to call her and chat for as long as a free call lasts. That Mum will never come up the stairs mouthing ("American?")

That I will never meet her.

I can't take it in, but I know there is a lot of grieving and crying to come.

Damn. What do you say? I'm completely blown away by this. I pray she is at peace now.

I'm stunned. Fuck.

I am very saddened to hear this news. My condolences to Taylor and Danny as well as to our community here in the Cellar.

Crying

the infinite monkey told me about this...
 

...awful news.

I had some minor communication with T a little while back...she was nice.

This a loss for all concerned.

Dammit. Like Sarge, I just don't know what to say.

Hate that anyone's family has to go through this.

:blackr:

I loved her because she was honest.
I loved her because she was imperfect.
I loved her because she was unguarded.
I loved her because she sometimes failed.
I loved her because she shared.
I loved her because she wanted to be better.
I loved her because she was childlike.
I loved her because she was real.

nice

That's lovely.

Hebe remembers her as "the one who waved at us" :)

Oh jim that really said it.

Such a loss for all of us. I am still thinking i will wake up and it won't be true. Fucking devastating.

I remember us laughing through tears the last we spoke.

Taylor and Danny your mom was so loved. Clever, beautiful lady. I am so sorry.

I never expected to be so upset that a stranger passed away, but I am. I have been on this site for years, and Claudette was always here. To me, she felt she was never good enough, and yet me, a perfect stranger looked forward to her opinion and insights. I didn't know her in person, I wish I had. She was more than "good enough" and I am saddened she felt otherwise. Her struggle is over now, she is with her beloved Autumn.
I hope Taylor and Danny, that you can remember all the good your mom has done, all the love she tried to give, in this most difficult time. In the months and years to come, I hope you come back to this page, and see how many people loved and repsected your mom.

not a stranger, jay. a friend you'd not met.

I love you for the same exact reasons. I think bri knew it, but I wish I had told her so.

Thank you. I love you too.

I had written a senti,ent to the cellar, which i lost as my phone is being wonky again...in and out of net access...but i hope to revive it when i am at a real computer.

Something about something good coming of this: remembering how we care about each other, despite differences.

Love you all.

Please send, phone.

Thank you Taylor and Danny for telling us this tragic news. I am so sad, and I know you're stunned and sad too. My heart goes out to you both. I would love to help if I can and the cellar is the best way to reach me. Many people here count her as a friend, all here respected her, both apply for me.

I learned last night when I got a call from classic (thanks man). I was stunned then, I'm still in disbelief, but I wanted to acknowledge Taylor and Danny. I'm so sorry boys, so sorry.

I put this in video thread but I meant to put it here:

I saw this on facebook (thanks DanaC) and I wanted to add my condolences to all, especially her sons. Many of us here have dealt with our own demons of a similar sort; how terribly sad to see a dear friend laid low.

Peace be with you, Bri.

Miss you, Pie. I can't remember when you left so I will mention that I used to be dar512. I hope that you are happy and healthy where ever you are in real life.

So, the cellar is like real life in this respect - sometimes tragedy brings old friends back together for a moment.

Condolences to you and your family, Taylor and Danny. Claudette was loved and will be missed. It's hard not to shed a tear being in this thread.

My condolences as well. I liked Trillby.

If I may, I would like to share a poem that is often recited at funerals for my lodge brothers. But I feel the sentiment can be applied to anyone.
If it is not appropriate, I request that a moderator delete it.

Stunned and so sad.

Goodbye, Tril. I'll miss your kind and generous spirit.

Wishing peace for her family in their grief.

Thank you CG, A beautiful poem, she did love poems. I will miss that about her.