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Originally Posted by Pangloss62
I LOVE being single! When I think back to all the times I was part of "couple," I have to admit that I often would think about how much I wanted to be single. Sex is good, companionship is nicel, no doubt, but there is more to life than that. Whatever happens happens. I'm content with friends, things to do, my job (I'm lucky in that regard). Hey limey! If you're not happy with yourself (as a single), you'll never be happy as part of a couple. I'll admit, however, that "The grass is always greener on the other side." I too wonder if things would be "better" if I were part of a couple; but I see so many couples that look soooooooo bored with each other. They begin to see arguments and petty shit as positive attributes of their relationship. You're better off single (untill you explode!!).
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I agree...to an extent. Being single is nice, in a lot of ways. You can do what you want, when you want, and you don't have to run it by anyone else. You can seek out companionship with friends or family when you want it, and when you need it. And, if I was different in my beliefs, I could have sex when I wanted with no strings attached.
I too look at the marriages and relationships all around me and think to myself, "Why woud I ever give up being single to have a marriage like
they have. I would have to be crazy!" But then I look at the marriages and I compare myself...and I know that if I ever got in a serious relationship it wouldn't be like
theirs for 2 simple reasons. I think the most important one is that I know who I am. I know who and what type of person I am compatible with and I know the type of person I am, and the type of person I can be. I do agree too though, that you have to know how to love yourself, and be happy with yourself before you can expect to love someone else and make them happy.
Secondly, I like to think I'm not exactly typical when it comes to women and the female response about most things...at least, I would say, I'm less typical than most of the women I run across...and the women in the marriages that I compare myself to. And I could be totally wrong about that too. Maybe I have a jacked up sense of reality? I am not saying that I'm perfect or better. You don't even have to know me to know that would be a lie. I guess what I'm saying is that I've learned from my past experiences and the experiences of others around me. I've learned what I will accept and what I expect and for the most part I will stand up for that, as long as I feel that I deserve it. I believe that the road is a two-street, and that it does in fact go both ways.
I would give up the freedom and all of the other "single" stuff, for the butterflies, companionship, conflicts, sex and all of the other things a relationship has to offer, if I had met the right person, and he was available. I've been on both sides of the street and have tested the grass on both sides... as for the sex part, I love sex, but being who I am, and being that I connect sex emotionally, I can't and won't just have sex with anyone just to have sex. It's not good. Sex is one of the most wonderful things in the world when you actually feel for the person you're having sex with.
