That's the thing. She'll build up to the highest peak I've seen her at then wind down. Then she'll tell me to stop because things have become really sensitive. Sounds like an orgasm to me, but who am I to say.

Is she on any medications?

Good point re: meds. I was on an antidepressant for a short time and even though my doctor insisted that it could not affect my sex drive, it did. Not only that, but it decreased sensitivity to the point where climax was not possible. I stopped taking the meds (and going to that doctor), and it all went back to normal.

Things get better with age. I'm 31 now and am starting to notice a huge increase in drive and pleasure.

The lover makes all the difference in the world, though it's not always for lack of trying that some are not as successful.

I cannot orgasm during cunnilingus. I used to, before I gave birth. But since then, lo those 8 + years ago, I think I've come maybe twice that way. I don't think I have any hang-ups that would be preventing an orgasm. It's a mystery.

My emotional state greatly affects my ability to orgasm. Can't help it, I'm a chick, gotta have that emotional connection... unless it's the rare occasion it's PURE lust.

I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know. Maybe she's just one of those women who can't orgasm. It happens. Not that I'm suggesting you give up.

I've heard of sex counselors helping people.

How about if your perception of what it should be is skewed? Descriptions from peers and romance novels can be misleading.

Probably the best bet is not to worry, enjoy, and do it till ya can't or don't wanna anymore.

I thought of that - that's why my response was somewhat noncommittal. I'm just saying that sex can be immensely pleasurable and not produce orgasm, but I think that most people know, if instinctively, that they have experienced an orgasm. There are always exceptions.

That being said, I'm suddenly having a very difficult time concentrating on work right now...

Birth control pills. Can't recall the flavor at the moment.

That's my plan. I need to figure out how to mitigate the neck cramps though...

Popped Cherry?

"Cherry Pop"

Tee hee :D (nice to see ya here, Deuce!)

Some orgasms are all big and explosive, and some are almost a let-down after the big build-up, but I'm just as sensitive afterwards either way. You don't have to stop caressing her, just leave the clitoris alone for a few (three?) minutes, and then gently give it another go (if you're up for it) ...

Hmmm, it does sound like an orgasm....I'm tipping, she's coming and its getting a bit lost in the after effects, because youre still down there. Then the sensitivity kicks in.

I've had that happen with newish partners.

If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. Use pillows and props, get creative with the furniture, so you are both comfortable and relaxed. Work this out together, it's a team sport.

One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing. :thepain:

LOL!!!!!!



Now on with it folks............I've got some learning to do here.:corn: