I dunno, I was considered very odd by almost everyone for not reverting to my maiden name...

I also had a friend who chose to change her name by deed poll after her divorce. She was Indian, but had no contact with her birth family, instead she was brought up in England by an elderly and fairly distant relative. So she felt no connection to her maiden name. He husband cheated on her and left her within a year of marriage, so she certainly didn't want to keep her married name.

So she chose something quite unusual and distrinctive which still fit her heritage. I won't type it here in case she still has the same name! I quite admired her for that.

Then perhaps it's regional. Mybad for generalizing. Still, it's moot at Razz is getting married, not divorced, thank goodness!

Congratulations, and sorry it took me so long to respond. I couldn't figure out what you were ENRAGED about.

Not here :cool:

Congrats Razz! (very sorry for the delay)

Whens the wedding and are we invited?

:D

This comes from a book which I've only just started. I have no idea if it has a happy ending, but the sentiment is not one I've come across before ever, so thought I'd include it to steer away from the thread drift.


"The point of marriage is not to create a commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both of their fullest freedom and development. But once that realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side by side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which give them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky."