mmmm.... I have a few suggestions:

First, if clothing is what she really need/wants... take her favorite outfit to a store in the mall, have them check the size and the.. ahem style... have them write it down on the back of a gift card, and get her a gift card... she will go into the store, with her size and style already set out, and will not be embarrassed when needing help., better yet... get her a mall gift certificate, but still go into a clothing store, and get her "suggestions" written down. sometimes its just we do not know what looks good on us, or do not want to spend that kind of money, especially when we have kids. Also, if clothes are your thing and not hers... she can get a toaster if she wants.......

Is luxury really not her thing, or is it really the money/time away from kidlets guilt what bugs her? Perhaps a day at the spa would do her a world of good... or maybe a day for all of you??

I once got a great gift..... a $200 anything you want card: It had several choices on it:

- dinner and a movie, with babysittting included
- dinner in, with kids, and a purchased movie, candles after bedtime, a massage and 2 hours of hubby/wife time alone
- a spa day
- a shopping spree for clothes
- kitchen gadgets ( my favorite )
- chocolates, flowers and no kids for 4 hours
- one full day without housework/kids/hubby/work
- a course at the college (cooking/photography/continuing education) <<--- the one I took
- maid service for 3 hours per week for 6 months <--- should have taken!

Some times just a choice is a good present.... and anything personal is always best.

To each their own. It's a role playing game. Nothing more. I happen to be very adventurous that way. But I know I am not the norm, so oh well. Carry on.

Gosh sugarpop, it sounds kind of off beat but I'm open minded, so perhaps if you were to demonstrate for/on me just what you're describing, I could embrace your recommendation. :D

You sir, are a cheeky cheeky monkey.

Yeah, but I'm consistent.:blush:

So, foot, what did you end up getting the spousespousespouse?

I will take pictures and post them.