You're going to have to spell this one out. What was small about that? I think you over reacted to a predictable comment made by a predictable person. Was it the image of your supposed edipal coitus that has your shorts riding up? Again, I didn't think he meant it in a literal way at all. So what's the problem, cupcake?

Infi hasn't posted in the Cellar Dreamin' thread. I didn't make the dreams cut. :sniff:

:D

I know I've said before I cannot deal with the things in life that most people just deal with...like normal everyday shit. As my ceiling didn't collapse, I poked a hole in it to get the water to drain as much as possible, I put a bucket under it and haven't done anything but worry and fret about it since. There must a dozen ways to not deal with this, including a giant scheme in which I end up dealing with it in a complicated way anyway. What, just pick up the phone? Then I'd have to talk to them. Then they'd have to come over. Then I'd have to get estimates. Then they'd deny me. Then I would be expected to argue.

I. Can't. Deal. This is why I had a major meltdown and it wasn't the worst thing ever. So enter, stage left, my continued hate for myself.

Oh, I'm a lovely gal. I am. :(
It wouldn't be fair to you to have me consider you, even in a dream. I wouldn't wish that on either the most patient person on earth nor on my worst enemy.

But if I WERE to dream a little dream of someone I'd try to give you a guest appearance, nothing to sign, no obligation.

Wow, I totally hijacked John's Bye Thread? I guess that's fitting.

Goddam I'm fucking tired.

If it makes you feel better at all, I still haven't told my landlord about the water coming through the bathroom ceiling.

I swear stuff like that - the whole making calls thing. It can take me months to work up the mental energy to make a phone call. I see something like the leak in the bathroom and I just go straight to wanting to sleep just at the thought of having to deal.

If this is a common feeling, there should be a service that deals with this kind of anxiety. People that understand how some folks get overwhelmed dealing with life's hurdles, and will take point for you. Make those calls, confront the contractors, and push you gently along the path. Not as involved as a life coach, but just to be there for these situations. Some people thrive on this shit.

I procrastinate sometimes with stuff like this... like I have a pile of medical bills for co-pays from having an HSA that I need to call and sort through... I'd just rather play Madden. But I would help you guys if I could for free... so someone must be willing to do it for a nominal fee?

Yeah. But you would have to call them to ask them to make the call for you.

or email them....

But they'd be really nice, and understanding

jinx had this same issue to a degree. I always did that kind of thing. I always said, 'she knows what she wants, and I know how to go get it' that's fucking teamwork.

I guess she just buckles down and does it now. She's moved 3 times, and bought a town house, so she must have.

I think I know that life!

Different strokes...

Teamwork can cut a lot of this kind of shit down to manageable size. It's nice/great/a lifesaver when someone else's strong suits dovetail with one's own areas of weakness, for whatever reason, no judging, srsly.

And you don't have to be married or coupled with the complementary person. A network of friends is a good place to look. Or family. Etc etc etc. That one guy that hiked to the north pole and all that other epic master of all trades, most interesting and accomplished man in the history of men, whatever. Good on him. I'm not that guy though.

The absolute key, though, is, you have to make your needs known to the person who can get it done. That's often harder than it sounds. "Hey can you help me with this thing, please?" That's necessary. We've all had somebody, probably mom, who could anticipate our needs and meet them without much from us, at least for
a time. Now we're grownups. We have to help ourselves at least as much as asking for the help.

I have more time and skill for actual roof repairs than I do for bird dogging someone else to do it. I'd do it for you for free, or at least look at it and tell you specifically what I thought you should be asking for. But the logistics are not in our favor this time.

But somebody around there can be that person. Seek them out, let them help. It's a big ask I know, I know, but I am sure it will be worth it.

Or just buck up and do it, like I don't. :o

Who the fuck is john sellers?

Just some asshole that shows up from time to time and stirs up shit.

you might know him as drax or maybe as datalyss

Oh riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

yeah.