One of my French instructors was from Vietnamese aristocracy. Her father was an Ambassador and she went to school in France. Another instructor, who was from France, had a husband who was a soldier killed in Vietnam. Small world.

Though etymologically, maybe they should.

A butler is FAR above a maid!

Butler <-- M Fr. botellier, the guy who handles the bottled goods -- his duties about serving milord's table seem to have started out as something like a sommelier's.

English, French and a little German. In general I find Americans to be far more obsessive aabout their manners -sending notes to thank people for thank you notes sent for gifts that were given inperson and thanks said at the time..... but yes, ordering is different. I always thought I'd never say "can I get....", or "I'll take a...." but I do. I aleways say thank you, though. "May I have...." tends to throw waitstaff off balance and then you have to go through 10 painful minutes of how they love your accent and where are you from and how they're saving to go to England......

English (Br), Russian (fluent), French (better than it ought to be after years of neglect).
But then I do work as a translator of Russian.