Sex is good--granted. But communication is better. Why do I fuck that up?

That I can't answer without knowing what your communication is exactly. Some people just don't know how to have good communication, and no matter what you do to fix their communication, it will always be a battle.

The problem I have sometimes is don't know what I want. So how can I communicate what bothers me and what should change when I don't know? But there isn't really anything (besides analyzing myself) that I can do about that. I think you must know what you want to happen in order to have good communication. And the other person has to know as well, or at least it seems that way to me.

Whoa Whoa Whoa!!!!!

No communication, No sex???? No, no, no!!!...can we at least have an age limit??

A bad lay for me happens when the guy only cares about himself (not caring if I get a "grand finale" too. Or if I've had sex because he wanted it, and I didn't...and I never got into it (maybe because I wasn't feeling like being that intimate with him).

Well that cuts out necrophilia...

Not if you're a medium.

That's what I love about you wolf; you're a "can do" type of thinker.

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