Damnit, I should have thought of that. But then again, I think she gets the rights to the story in the divorce too.

Part of the division of those particular spoils requires that you each get your own version, neither of which particularly resemble each other. Check your decree. You'll find I'm correct. ;)

Hey man, glad you're still checking in, positive or negative.

I signed the final papers the other day, I'm 6-7 months out and for me life is so much better that I really wish it had happened sooner. Hope your situation works out equally well or even better.

Congratulations, UT. Are you going to have a party?

Oh I ain't hijacking HJ's thread.

We don't take kindly to that kind of thing 'round here.

and would Sharon be invited to it?

Gleefully posted by UT Glad to hear it.

Hindsight is 20/20. At least you're still young enough to "start over."

I think I signed the last of the papers yesterday. It was hard to let go. It's going to take me a long time to get over this and even then I doubt I'll ever be over it. My divorce should be final on June 18.

My question is (and nobody has to answer this, it's more or less to myself) what do I do now?

I'm free to make my own decisions because what I do only affect me. I just don't know what I want. I thought I had it and I lost it.

Just me babbling.

whatever you want to....scary, huh?

Scary???? I don't know. Yeah it's kind of scary and kind of relieving at the same time.

I think it might have been somebody here who said, if something seems overwhelming to you - just ignore it.

Once I started to make my own decisions, I found it to be great. I remember I started with the front of the refrigerator. Off with all the shit I never would have put up there. Left with the basics, it was suddenly my fridge again.

My bowls to eat out of.

My candles to light up.

My bass rig right in the fucking living room, taking up all kinds of space -- YAH! She would have HATED it! We would have had the biggest fight in the world over putting it there! I never would have put it there, just to avoid that fight! And yet THERE IT IS!

You'll figure it out. Best piece of advice I have seen on this thread was not to make any major decisions whilst your emotions are in a heightened state.

Find some distractions ....Put one foot in front o fthe other adn indulge yourself a little. Some people get fit....go running, hit the gym.....Others read obsessively, some start playing instruments they set aside years before. It almost doesnt matter what distraction you choose ( unless of course you choose heroine and whiskey thats never good ;P) because its just a way of getting from here to then. Then being that time when you realise you are through the worst. It's a good feeling when that happens though it is tempered with sadness and takes a while to feel solid.....it comes out of the blue after you've done something on auto pilot and realised you are becoming your self again ....life starts to feel normal and unstrained.

Originally posted by homerjackson Oh....let's see. Fart at will. Burp at will. Listen to your favorite music - loudly. Walk around in yer undershorts. Drink from the milk carton. Join a gym and actually go. Take a whiz without raising or lowering the seat. Don't cut the grass till you are good 'n ready. Watch old football games on ESPN Classic. Get a dog. Rent guy movies. Go to Outback and order a huge steak and eat it at the bar while the NBA playoffs are on TV. Flirt - not seriously but just to get a smile. Lastly, be pleased with yourself.

Get the idea? :)