Admittedly she is better at explaining this part, but, see, it wasn't infidelity, she was just sleeping in the same bed with another man while I was out of town, telling me we were still together, and then waiting until I moved back home to tell me it's over, and oops she might already be in another relationship, accidentally. But that's not infidelity, that's just me being an asshole for no reason. Totally different thing. See, it sounds crazy when I say it. Sorry, I'm not as good at explaining things as she is.

Christ on a bike, Flint, that sounds horrible. I have no sage advice I'm afraid - but am thinking of you with kindness nonetheless.

I'm sorry Flint. :(

I don't know your pain, but I know 'the' pain, and it sticks with some of us. As jim said, don't let it ruin you.

Geez, just what a shitty situation. Vent here if you can or want to.

Wow, Flint. I'm sorry. What an unexpected blow.

Well, you got us. That's something.

That sounds terrible, Flint. How I got through the worst of times for me was to say to myself "this is awful, it feels like shit, and hurts worse than anything I've ever lived through, but I will get over it." You will, too. And, as UT says, you have us.


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It seems impossible to believe now, but in a year, give or take six months, you will be having amazingly good times.

mark it down

True dat.

It's bizarre really, how much negative stuff just goes under the radar for years - then once you get past the heart-wrenchingly shitty break up you realise how much you really don't miss this or that aspect.

Amen to that.

For now, fake it. Do things you like to do, even if you don't feel like it right now. Surrender to this reality if it can't be changed. Don't resist what you can't control. Talk to whoever will listen, write it down... Just get out of your past and don't fear the future. This shall pass.

Yeah, right, I'm missing the point. :rolleyes:

Bruce, what is your problem? This break up happened six months ago. I'm here to share how, as an individual, I'm struggling to move forward, even if by cobbling together some kind of positive self image out of duct tape and superficial attributes. You're way the fuck off in left field trying to diagnose a relationship that is dead and buried. We went to counseling and worked through this shit as best as we could. We are big boys and girls, we don't need your pop psychology diagnosis, so please just drop it. Will someone validate his desire to appear perceptive and insightful, so he won't feel the need to continue?

Six months later claiming, I wuz robbed, means you don't get it. So just ignore me and keep seeking affirmation of your victimhood.

Can't validate it, he's a bitter old asshole, projecting his many failed relationships on your one and current situation...pretending he's so forgiving and that he takes on the burden of responsibility in his relationships.

He hasn't spoken to me in years. I consider myself lucky. There were times I tried to crawl up like the injured pet he likes to believe women are, and I was ignored. Because, you see, it was all MY fault our friendship blew to pieces. Personal responsibility my ass.

Now ignore him and listen to what others have to say. We care.

Bruce, you have a fair point. Totally off-topic, but I do understand what you're saying. As I've explained, six months, couples counseling, and me not being a completely insensitive block of granite have pretty much negated the need for quickie five-minute Internet armchair quarterbacks to repeatedly attempt to 'blow my mind' with post analysis of a series of events I've had six months to consider every aspect of. Public forum, though, so, oh well.

:lol:

I'll never understand the dynamics here. ;)

Flint, you're a wimp
Bruce, get off my ass
You're such a 'victim'
Bruce, get off my ass
Still not getting off your ass
you know, you should ignore that mean shit
Oh, bruce, you really do have a point!

Whut? *snickers*