Sigh....so I get a message today from I.S (JS' Dad) who says his daughter (who I.S said was quite pushy) thinks that it will be better if JS contacts her first...

Fuck off

JS didn't even know she existed until a few days ago. Little miss (who's Facebook name is Princess [name]) isn't the only pushy bitch in this situation.

Its taken me ages to get JS comfortable with meeting his Dad (FYI, my sister told JS that his Dad used to beat her...which may be true, but none of my family believe so and hell - I've wanted to belt her a few times myself)...im not about to say "hey, contact this chick rather than your dad, ok? Cool".

Quite right Ducks.
This is not about the daughter.
JS has as much right to his father as this girl. She cannot hi-jack this.

(I admit, my gut sympathies are with her though - I'd have been the same if it was my Dad suddenly revealing he had another child. I'm highly possessive.)

What father in their right mind would say you have to go through my daughter to get to me? lol Wouldn't your normal protective instincts tell you to go first and make sure your son hasn't turned into some kinda crazy axe murderer in the intervening years?

Either that or wouldn't the fact that you're supposed to have balls put you in charge of your daughter?

Sorry Ducky. I think I'm a little bit unstable this morning. It's all just too much for me.

I'm getting off the cellar now before I say something really stupid. lol

Nah, all good Ali.

It seems this Daddy's little girl has some serious control issues, but I got it sorted.

I think I.S is just caught in the middle a bit, doesnt want to upset his Daughter and they have had some terrible family news this year, so I am not being too hard on him.

I have *suggested* (read: told them how it is) that I.S and JS should build some foundations before they introduce Princess and JS' son into the mix. It was agreed.

Im pretty chuffed that I.S' last message was "I look forward to talking to JS at length and hopefully rebuild what we have both lost over the years".

Awwww :)

That's very sweet. I hope it all turns out for the best.

Has sis gotten wind of any of it yet?

Noooo, not yet.

As soon as she logs into facebook she will, she will see her son and her ex are my friends - that will be an awkward conversation.

Mum told me to play nice if we go at it.

Same as she told me to bite my tongue at Dad's funeral (which I did), but seriously, she doesnt talk to ANY of us for 4 years and then all of a sudden she's everywhere and annoyed that she doesnt know whats been going on ...hallooooo...answer your phone, reply to a txt...its a two way street.

The "everywhere" stopped as soon as she found out there's no inheritance.

bah...my sister has just turned up on facebook.

This wont be pretty :)

Awesome! lol

Good luck Ducks! For the record, I think you're doing the right thing.

Fuck her !!!
Yer doing the right thing Dux

Good luck, Ducks. :)

Can we get screenshots? ;)

Ha ha, so far she hasnt noticed.

She's only commented on my lust of RedFoo.

The self-centered see what they want. It may not be pretty, but I'm sure you can handle her, and will only be as rough on her as necessary. You done good. :thumb:

Damn, thought RedFoo might be an exciting new Australian dish.
But he's just a man.
YMMV.