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Pico and ME 04-19-2011 10:56 AM

Ahhhh....maybe I should have tried to figure out the context first, but if someone had said to me - 'I've decided to rethink my previously held opinions of you', I would have been really put off.

Trilby 04-19-2011 01:02 PM

I always imagine that poster as coming from a place of incredible condescension, pico, and i, too, felt it was meant as an insult.

Some people are soooooo prissy.

Aliantha 04-19-2011 06:55 PM

It was a tongue in cheek statement, particularly the last sentence. Hence the wink.

That being said, I have noticed a change in MTP's attitude lately, and I find her easier to relate to because of it, so maybe I should have just said that instead huh?

If I offended you at all MTP, that was not my intention. Please accept my apology.

DanaC 04-19-2011 07:01 PM

I just assumed Ali was riffing on the thread title...

Aliantha 04-19-2011 07:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pico and ME (Post 724274)
Ahhhh....maybe I should have tried to figure out the context first, but if someone had said to me - 'I've decided to rethink my previously held opinions of you', I would have been really put off.

You didn't notice that MTP used that exact phrase in her OP? Aside from my humourous intent, I was also suggesting that it's a two way street, and that I for one have noticed the change, even if no one else has. Possibly because I think that maybe I'm one of the people she was talking about.

Maybe not though. In any case, I am impressed that MTP could write something like this. It takes a lot of inner strength to let go of preconcieved notions and see someone for who they really are.

wolf 04-20-2011 10:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint (Post 724236)
You're right, skysidhe. This IS a nice board. VERY nice.

You afraid that Anthony is going to wish you into the cornfield or something?

morethanpretty 04-20-2011 11:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 724545)
You didn't notice that MTP used that exact phrase in her OP? Aside from my humourous intent, I was also suggesting that it's a two way street, and that I for one have noticed the change, even if no one else has. Possibly because I think that maybe I'm one of the people she was talking about.

Maybe not though. In any case, I am impressed that MTP could write something like this. It takes a lot of inner strength to let go of preconcieved notions and see someone for who they really are.

I never thought for a second that there would not be people on this board with a bad opinion of me. I have been at odds with people at times, so that is bound to happen. I'm not trying to insist they get rid of those conceptions, I'm just letting y'all know I'm trying to get rid of mine.
I think people can be honest without being mean or personally attacking another person.
Thank you Ali for for rethinking your opinion of me.
Pico, thank you for taking a stand for me, you're right, Ali's comment could have been interpreted as insulting, but I'm not.

Flint 04-20-2011 11:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint (Post 724236)
You're right, skysidhe. This IS a nice board. VERY nice.

Quote:

Originally Posted by wolf (Post 724886)
You afraid that Anthony is going to wish you into the cornfield or something?

:::chortle:::

footfootfoot 04-20-2011 03:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint (Post 723801)
Nobody liked me when I joined here, but I didn't let it hurt my feelings. I think Elspode was the only person who even said "give him a chance"...

"OK Flint, what's the Capitol of New York?"
"N"
"Give Flint another chance, give Flint another chance"
"OK Flint, What is 5 + 5?"
"7"
"Give Flint another chance, give Flint another chance"
"OK Flint, how do you spell troll?"
"T-R-O-L-L"
"Give Flint another chance, give Flint another chance"

Aliantha 04-20-2011 05:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morethanpretty (Post 724888)
I never thought for a second that there would not be people on this board with a bad opinion of me. I have been at odds with people at times, so that is bound to happen. I'm not trying to insist they get rid of those conceptions, I'm just letting y'all know I'm trying to get rid of mine.
I think people can be honest without being mean or personally attacking another person.
Thank you Ali for for rethinking your opinion of me.
Pico, thank you for taking a stand for me, you're right, Ali's comment could have been interpreted as insulting, but I'm not.

Yeah, I've looked at it again, and it could have been insulting, so I'm glad you didn't take it that way, because I certainly didn't want it to seem that way.

Maybe it's the way my sense of humour works or something else, but it seems that some people don't get it. I'm sorry for that. I'll try to just be serious instead...although, the same poster has accused me of taking myself too seriously and so I started trying to lighten up a bit, but that poster is still not happy. I guess that means that some people are just never going to be happy, so they can go fuck themselves, and I'll just be me. :)

TheMercenary 04-20-2011 07:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 725040)
I guess that means that some people are just never going to be happy, so they can go fuck themselves, and I'll just be me. :)

:thumb:

skysidhe 04-20-2011 07:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint (Post 723882)
"Nice" is bullshit. I want HONEST. Why bother with anything less?

BECAUSE.....of this?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 724109)
mtp, I've decided to rethink my previously held opinions of you, mostly due to some of the observations you've made lately that I've been really impressed with, especially considering the personal challenges you're dealing with lately.

Let's be friends. ;)

You did offer friendship. In light of the good, it is easy to assume, no harm.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pico and ME (Post 724237)
Ali, have you no idea how insulting this is?

YOU is such a funny word

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 724545)
In any case, I am impressed that MTP could write something like this. It takes a lot of inner strength to let go of preconcieved notions and see someone for who they really are.

This was a very cool thing to say.

Using the word YOU instead of casting a wider net doesn't diminish the other very awesome supportive things you said.

I am sure mtp understood it to be a oversight, besides, one persons faux pas is another persons humor.

morethanpretty 04-20-2011 09:18 PM

I'm sure, just like Ali, Pico meant no harm either in her comment. Pico did apologize for maybe jumping the gun a bit. Although I can see why she saw things the way she did. I already said I understood.

Pico and ME 04-20-2011 10:59 PM

Thank you mtp.

morethanpretty 04-20-2011 11:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pico and ME (Post 725145)
Thank you mtp.

No problem.


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