Congrats V.

A hard journey, but you made it through.

Been there, done that... a couple times. I'm pretty sure I understand what you've been through, and I know I understand where you're at now. Ain't it great.:D

You, sir, your voice, sir, has been echoing in my head for a few years now.

It *was* mean when you said it, but you were still right when you said it: "So, get from the bitch to the beach", you bastard.

You are right again, unsurprisingly. It **IS** great, you have no idea.

I thank all of you, my friends, for being excellent to each other, and to me, through the years. /bows deeply/

I have the handbook, unfortunately it was given to me too late. :haha:

Love the cover, looks like it was done by one of my fav artists, R. Crumb.

Congrats to V on a happy ending.

Have you, ahem, 'reveled in your singledom'?

{reposted from yesterday due to technical difficulties}

Two years, today.

I thought all day about what to say to commemorate this landmark in my life, and have come up pretty empty handed. I have seen some of my friends also fall into the abyss of divorce. At least it feels that way at first. When I listened to their stories, I could empathize with their feelings of shock, but another reaction was stronger. That my current state was a testament to just how good it could be, and fairly soon after that shock wears off.

Make no mistake, it was a shock and a painful one. But my whole life is better now, everything is better now. And it's kind of a surprise because at the time, I kind of thought it was the end of the world. At least I had no idea there would be surcease to the pain, that there was an end to the stupefaction. There was indeed and I had no idea how good it would become.

My marriage lasted as long as it did, and then ended. My life continued, I continued. To my friends who are still in free fall, please, take it from me, you're flying rapidly to a much better life. Hang on!

ps, that goes for you too, Tink. Happy Divorceary!

((((((((Big V)))))))

Thank you. :)

Has someone told Elspode to visit this thread?

BigV, I am also glad you are here and have travelled the path you have. Thanks for sharing it with us here.

Crazy isn't it, how life CAN and DOES get better. Who woulda thunk? I'm incredibly happy that you're so happy.

:)

First I noticed how much longer the toilet paper lasted, then how much better life in general was.

My D Day is on my birthday, so although I dont celebrate my Birthday, I definitely recognise the day the court granted my "Me-ness" back.

My Mum said to me the other day..."never understod why you got married, you were never going to, I couldnt understand it".

Yes Mum, neither do I. I was against it from a very young age but fucking immigration forced my hand.

::::grumbles, big fucking waste of money that sponorship was::::