I was sorry to see this thread's title just a moment ago. I really feel for you, wolf. You've been a very devoted daughter in these last few months leading up to this, and I'm sure even before that. You really took care of her and deserve accolades for that. I'm truly sorry for your loss.

i am truley sorry for your lots

The meeting with the funeral director went very well. They really are open to most options that family is willing to choose, mainly just suggesting what people often do.

siswolf and I did pick out a "scattering" urn, which just means that it's easier to get into. 13 or or so years ago I remember my friend's S.O. having to go at the bottom of her urn with his power drill (no, not that one, that's really gross. It was a Sear's Craftsman) to get her out so we could scatter her.

We also received a very nice suggestion that if siswolf and I go through with our plan to take some small portion of momwolf to Hawaii that we should put her in our checked baggage rather than the carry-on.

Oh, and I learned that I was not the first person to make the "Meet the Parents" comment about the pink cloisonné.

Oh, and making the notification phone calls really sucks.

Dear wolf

The news of your mom's passing is terribly sad. I wish I could offer you comfort, but all I have are these words. Not true--I grieve with you and siswolf, I can share a little of that. And you also have my friendship, you can share a lot of that.

You have but to ask. Stay in touch, wolf.

Yours,

I'm sorry to hear of your mother's passing, wolf. My feelings go out to you and your family. You know that I am but a phone call away if there is anything that I can do to help. Don't hesitate, I'll be here 24/7.

I am sorry for your loss but I think we all gained watching how you negotiated the last few months. May you be blessed as you were a blessing.

I am so very sorry. All of our thoughts and prayers are with you.

I am also sad that you were subjected to such a poor experience with the hospice worker, especially one coming at such a critical time. It sounds like someone needs retraining (or a kick in the ass).

My condolences, Wolf.

Terribly sorry about your loss. Death is sort of like a neighbor that we all have and know pretty well yet always such a shock when they show up at your door no matter how long they have been expected.

My love and condolences to you and yours, Eva.

Sorry to Hear of your Loss Wolf ,

May the relief your mom realized through release comfort you in remembrance, take care.

My deepest condolences.

Wolf, I have very much admired the way you've taken care of your mother, and the humour you've brought to what must at times have been frustrating and miserable.

Every now and then I remember your story of your Mum picking all the raisins out of the cereal because she thought you wouldn't eat it otherwise. And then scoffing them herself. It is funny, but it illustrated something I can't quite articulate about older parents and makes me feel a little sad too.

Your Mum was very lucky to have your support, love, common sense and respect while her health declined. Having had a very short dose of taking care of an elderly relative, and seeing my Mum do the same thing for the last year, I understand how strong the bonds of love are especially in difficult situations and how deep the loss must be.

I'm so sorry for you and your sister.
Much love in the time to come.

Sorry for your loss, Wolf. You have my sympathy and condolences.