Sorry to hear that V! Damm. Hang in there dude. You are a strong guy. Like others have said the most important thing is to keep your mind and body busy when awake. The more you sit and do nothing the more time you have to think about depressing thoughts. Stay busy and on the go. You can do it. You will make it. Many here have gone down the same river, including the falls, and they have survived a better stronger person. Be there for your kids as much as possible. Good thoughts your way.

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I second all the good wishes and words of advice given here, BigV. All I would add is that the issues between you and Tink are just between you two and nothing to do with your children. Do not bring your children into it, and in all your dealings with and communications to your children focus exclusively on your relationship with them, never your relationship with Tink.
I'd give the same advice to any parent going through a divorce where there are children involved.

Or, you could snap out and kill everyone in Seattle. No? That's not BigV?
Right! You haven't changed, your circumstances have changed and you will adjust to that... Just like when it gets cold, you may not like it but you dress warmer and life goes on. You'll handle this and life will go on.

Don't neglect your job, don't neglect the kids, and most of all don't neglect your health...



... and don't neglect us, ya Boy Scout.:p

I repeat what others have said V.
I know you must feel broken right now.
Believe it can mend because it will.
There will still be joins - scars - but you will be whole again one day.

And you are a father. Regardless of where you are and who you are with, you are a father not just to your biological child, but to the (two? I think) children that you have been there for day in and day out.

They all love you. You are one of the defining influences in their lives. It is more important than money, work, even hurt - pretty much everything.

I'll bet it hurts like buggery now. But it won't be quite so painful for ever. My heart goes out to you completely. Look after yourself, look after your children as well as you can. And remember that you tried your best. Some people simply can't be together. This is not a judgement on you. You worked at it and it wasn't possible.

I'm sorry to hear this, V. I know you had worked hard for a better outcome.
We're all thinking about you, bud.

That sucks balls V.
Like others have said, only way to keep your head up eis to focus on one day at a time. Take care of yourself.

Crapsticks. I can't believe I missed this thread till just now.

Take care of yourself as best you can. You know we'll be here for you when you need us.

Miss you.

The walls are clearing. The shelves are emptying. The boxes are accumulating.

Hugs, Big V.

V, you are a good man in a tough situation. Seattle rains misery, but one day, when you're not looking for it, there will be a patch of blue there, and you'll see it, and appreciate it, and it will grow.

Then it will just be rain, again.

Lots and lots of love V.
You've given it out, you'll get it in return.
Divorce isn't the end, even when it feels like it. It's a beginning.
And the relationship you have with your children lasts forever.

Hang in there brother, we are all pulling for ya.

It gets better pretty fast... and the new person that emerges will be fascinating.

Sorry to hear about everything, V. I watched my brother go through it. I doesn't matter why or who's to blame (she was)...it still sucks. But things will get better with time.