The Cellar - Adultery

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When my wife first started traveling a lot for work, one of my co-workers asked how I knew she wasn't having an affair. I said, "What's the difference? Either way I have to make my own lunch."

That's my philosophy.

Good point HLJ. Being cheated on hurts in ways that are not easy to deal with. It strikes a blow to trust and once that is damaged or destroyed it is extremely difficult, if possible, to rebuild.

Especially if you went out on a limb with the trusting thing, knowing how deceitful people can be. You're like "DAMN, I should have known better, should have followed my instincts, should have realized when he/she said he/she was the king/queen of some unheard of country that they are big liars."

Live and learn.

Some of the difficulty is that after that trust is broken and in cases, even before, even the appearance of an impropriety can be very destructive - Unfortunately.

Live - remove ANOTHER knife from heart - and learn.

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123 (Post 473979)

Bingo! And once you've been lied to at that level while being told how much you are loved and that there is no one else at the same time....It's worse for the one being cheated on too when pictures are exchanged. "Gee, don't my tits look okay to you"? "Gee, I'm obviously not the only one that gets to see your dick". I hope said sister comes to her senses as well as the schmuk whose cheating on his wife.

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Originally Posted by classicman (Post 473984)

The knives can come out?!:eek:

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The knives can come out?!

Slowly and with great care.

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Originally Posted by Cicero (Post 473467)

Yea, like I said, people have always met at work and always will.....I think it's normal. Why wouldn't you date a peer? If you are in the same business you probably at least have a lot in common. Not everyone meets at church.

The married guy fetishists are not normal I don't think.

One of my ex's sister's was like that. Always trying to be with very married guys. I always thought that always showed a lack of character. She didn't like single guys. Only very married ones. I can understand mishaps and screw ups, but to repeatedly date the same married guy with no conscience about it is beyond me. Then they end up blaming the guy's wife for something trivial.

Maybe it's the thrill of taboo and secret meetings.

I think the company's problem in this case was that they were not peers, he was her boss

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Originally Posted by Tink (Post 473989)

The knives can come out?!:eek:

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Originally Posted by DanaC (Post 473997)

Slowly and with great care.

The tip almost always breaks off though. The wounds heal around it, but it's always there. If you get another injury in exactly the same area it causes far more damage.

Hence protective devices such as shields, deflectors, fences, and moats. :)

...walls, attitude...

...laser guns, tarps...

;)

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl (Post 474135)

The tip almost always breaks off though. The wounds heal around it, but it's always there. If you get another injury in exactly the same area it causes far more damage.

Correct. It has happened twice. Double the hurt.

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123 (Post 474148)

...laser guns, tarps...

;)

Score...laser tag. You're it!:apistola:

This thread is making me want an adult-ery beverage.

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123 (Post 474139)

Hence protective devices such as shields, deflectors, fences, and moats. :)

I understand this quandary.