I think the idea of men cumming on womens faces is all about the power aspect. It's part of the games we all involve ourselves in when we have sex. The ultimate power struggle!

Oh yeah, and then there's the meaningful, sharing and caring undying love kind of sex, but seriously, who has that after the sixth month of a relationship anyway? ;)

On the contrary I think you just gave the most amazing insight. I had never considered it in that light. It makes sense.

I do think ali's power theory also has some weight though. But I suspect that your explanation underlies it even if the power aspect is present.

If a woman ejaculates on me during oral, is she dominating me?

Difficult to include the visual (and therefore visual possession) element without creative use of either mirrors or yoga, so I'm guessing not:P

Maybe. I think it works both ways really. I don't think it matters who's doing the tongue work and who's doing the writhing around.

Yeah, that's maybe part of it -- sex is at once utterly selfish and utterly giving, isn't it? You can give the utter pleasure to your mate, but you can't share the orgasm, and vice-versa. So it's utterly dominating and utterly submissive, all the time. But not a bad kind of domination/submission...

The bits you don't share with your partner become your partner's fantasy. I remember a real-life story where a guy fell in love with a woman who was OCD about counting - you know how some people get hung up on numbers? I don't remember the exact details, but the woman was a serial counter, who would count her steps to the bus station every day, count the bricks on the wall, form relationships with numbers. One day the guy figured out that, every time she gave him a handjob, she gave him 22 strokes with the right hand, and then 22 strokes with the left hand, etc. For months it went on like that.

And what became his fantasy... what drove him utterly crazy... was the dream... the hope... the longing... that one day she would go 23 on him.

lol...so I have to ask the question. At the end of 44 strokes did he always cum on cue? If so, maybe that was the problem.

No, she'd just go 22 one hand, 22 the other until it was effective.

ok, so if she went 22, 22 and then he came on 15, would she keep going to 22 anyway?

of course she would. the question is......did she 'have' to go to the left hand if he came on the right?

why would she have her hand in the way? Wouldn't she let him cum on her face?

Somewhat tangentially, I think the "pearl necklace" is cute, and it's not too likely to get any up her nose, which seems right for a couple of reasons.

UT is quite right -- it's both selfish and un-.

I love pavalova.

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