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Paul J. 03-07-2007 09:20 PM

The processs
 
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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce (Post 319919)
Paul J., how do you research a book of this nature. Surely it can't all be first person trial and error. I'd assume you'd check out what's on the market already, study some research papers, interview some Dr Ruth types, and add personal or anecdotal experience. What am I missing here? :confused:

I'm not sure whether it helped or hurt, but I'm a research psychoanalyst, which for me ended up requiring about ten years worth of grad school. To finally get the first edition of the book written, I pretty much lived in the stacks at the Biomed library at UCLA for a couple of years, reading everything I could get my hands on. And when I wasn't there, I was on the west end of Topanga Beach, doing, well....

Each new edition takes a year of 12 hour days. I do that every other year. I spend a huge amount of time trying to keep up on everything from the science of sex, to learning about the history of sex, to learning more about sex in popular culture, and in other cultures.

And I listen. And ask questions--more than is probably good for you.

I guess I do what anyone does who has written a big old honkin' book and wants it to be the best it can possibly be.

Cloud 03-07-2007 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul J. (Post 319797)
Thanks much for your kind words, LabRat!
--Paul the author of the book


wow! I missed that! Doing a bit of Googling there, Paul?

I will reiterate--this is the best book of its kind I have ever read. Very thorough, informative, with humor, and well-designed. I like that it includes a section on piercing.

I didn't mind too much lending my copy to Daughter No. 1, since 1) she's having more sex than I am (cough) and 2) I plan to buy the newer edition!

xoxoxoBruce 03-08-2007 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Paul J. (Post 321187)
Big snip ~
I guess I do what anyone does who has written a big old honkin' book and wants it to be the best it can possibly be.

Thank you. Carrying a dust jacket from a previous edition, with your picture on it, might save you from arrest or a smack down, when you're asking questions. :worried:

In appreciation for your sharing information I'd like to contribute to your data base; sex - I'm for it.

kerosene 03-08-2007 09:28 PM

I have seen this book around and considered buying it. Not sure why I haven't yet. I particularly like the graphics on the front, but I am drawn to things visually.

seakdivers 03-08-2007 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul J. (Post 321187)
Each new edition takes a year of 12 hour days. I do that every other year.

My husband updates his every third year. We all dread the "book update" years.....he becomes a hyper-focused grump! lol :)

SteveDallas 03-08-2007 10:23 PM

Paul, what kinds of things would you say change most from edition to edition?

footfootfoot 03-08-2007 10:33 PM

Not opposed to premarital sex, provided it doesn't delay the ceremony.

Aliantha 03-08-2007 10:40 PM

My husband just finished writing his first book. He didn't seem to be that bad, and writing the book wasn't the only thing he was doing.

lumberjim 03-18-2007 12:50 AM

spammer alert. ^ check the sig line!

xoxoxoBruce 04-29-2007 08:31 PM

Bump for Cloud

Cloud 04-29-2007 08:49 PM

now this one, I remember!

kerosene 10-03-2007 04:51 PM

We just bought this book and love it! Every night we read a little bit more. Thanks, Paul, for writing this.

TheMercenary 10-04-2007 11:11 AM

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/boo...9769569&itm=22
A fun read if you want to know what goes on with some fringe interests.

Cloud 10-04-2007 11:19 AM

there are people with kinks about bangs?

;)

SteveDallas 10-04-2007 12:08 PM

Years ago, I was looking for some information on myodisc eyeglass lenses (used so that ultra-nearsighted people like me can have glasses that are ridiculously thick, as opposed to impossibly thick). I came across a site run by a guy with a fetish for girls wearing really thick glasses.


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