Clodfobble |
05-03-2009 01:12 PM |
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Originally Posted by Chocolatl
Clod, what about phrasing in the fact that your family is still getting used to a new diet among many other things, and that what Minifob really needs right now is stability and routine? Is Grandma really prepared to go completely GFCF for a week?
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She thinks she is, but she isn't. Over Easter she delivered a bunch of candy, happy to tell me that she had checked the ingredients and "gluten" was not listed. :rolleyes: I have sent her several documents explaining what gluten is and the hundreds of ingredients that it hides in, but she doesn't understand.
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Originally Posted by monster
Fob, by next summer he will have been to school for a year. maybe he'll be fine. sounds to me like she's willing to give it her all to be a good grandma to minifob. Sure, he's not your average kid, but even your average kid has separation anxieties the first night or two they spend away from mom and dad. Are you really doing him a favor by waiting until he's older for him to learn to deal with these feelings? i think it's great for her and minifob that she wants to come and stay and learn how to help him. I know, hard for you, but you knew this wasn't going to be a bed of roses. right? and maybe, just maybe it will be just fine. maybe she'll come to stay and get the hang of dealing with him, maybe he'll come to love and trust her, maybe she can even stay in for one night while you and Mr Fob get a well deserved night alone together.....
how far away does she live? can you maybe compromise with next year, but only two nights to start and we'll stay nearby so if he's trully inconsolable unmaneagable, we'll come and get him after one?
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He had four nights away with both grandma and Daddy at home while I was in the hospital with Minifobette. That was pretty much four straight days of screaming. Just a few weeks ago we had a bit of an emergency and he did a bedtime with just Daddy, and he did mostly okay with that. But it was in his own bed following his (very rigid) bedtime routine. The last time we were at grandma's house over the holidays, even with me there he screamed until past midnight before finally passing out in his new sleeping environment.
And it's not just the inconsolable part, there are real dangers--aside from the danger of her feeding him the wrong foods, he still bolts unexpectedly in unfamiliar public places, and I know she can't run as fast as he can, nor is she physically strong enough to contain him when he's in full-on tantrum mode. On the upside, Minifob's aunt lives with her as well, and her, I do trust. She's a special education teacher, and just a lot more mentally with it in general.
But yes, it's possible that with another year under his belt he'll be a totally different kid. I just don't want her to think I'm committing to things now that I can't predict.
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