Lamplighter, that is awesome!

This has been an interesting thread. Some dwellars that I think of as hard-headed realists get all mystical when it comes to romance.

Certainly the attraction/heat/chemistry is necessary to a relationship and that's the component that can't be predicted or measured. But chemistry isn't sufficient alone for a rewarding stable relationship. You also have to be compatible.

If you can be honest with yourself about your needs, desires, quirks, habits both bad and good, etc. then there are number of things you can do to tell if you are compatible with another person. In my opinion, this doesn't take the romance from a relationship, it reinforces it with a firm foundation.

Western society has gotten so caught up in the chemistry of love, that many people think that's all that's necessary.

This would be awesome.

Her: honey, what's Bob's phone number?
Him: er, which one is Bob?
Her: Tall guy, red hair, was at the club last week
Him: Oh, yeah, Bob ... 555 - 4367.

:D

We have many conversations just about like that. ;)

My ex and I identified people by what they drank. "You know, Bob...drinks bourbon and seven, with lemon, likes to keep the old ice from drink to drink."

"Oh yeah! BOB!"

good goad, I did that, too!