I don't *like* insults, but I think I get more from them. If anything, they are a motivator to not be so much the way the insulter has accused me of being. Unless, of course, the insulter is full of shit.

Compliments are difficult, because I often second guess, don't understand, don't feel deserving of or become suspicious of the intent of the complimenter. Usually, i can take them well, but inside, I never allow myself enough indulgence to actually, truly believe them. Sadly, I know this very well about myself, I know why it's that way, and the truth doesn't make me feel any better. I haven't figured out how to reprogram myself the right way.

I ignore both compliments and insults. I will be my own person and take no outside input thank you very much.

Which could be why I'm alone.

So...

very... :cry:
very.....



Alone.

:lol2:

I don't trust compliments. I expect there's a hidden knife in any pat on the back.

I take both with a large grain of salt... but when the input is honest and unexaggerated, either one is appreciated.

HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest. :)

I reserve a special collection of VERY large salt grains just for you, buddy.

Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic.

So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

Okay...who stole warch's login info?

i'm uncomfortable with compliments to my face, i'm always looking for the angle. it feels really good when you hear through the grapevine has been complimentary though.

Was that an insult or a compliment? What does it mean when you're not sure? (I would attach a simple smilie, but I find that in the growing bar to the right of this text box there are 4,889 wiggly variants and emotional bullets to navigate, so I lost my will.)

Since your question was thoughtful and intelligent, I'd have to say it was an insult... and you're right- it's friggin impossible to find the right smilie!!!

Is there a way to group the damn things??? You know- "happy", "mad", "sad", "confused", "dead/ill", etc...

by the way,
A compliment you hear behind your back is the best kind.

Okay, That inspired me to take it upon myself to categorize every single smilie, and then I tried to post the list under "cellar comments and suggestions" and it wouldn't let me, said I tried to post too many smilies. :mad2:

Yes, I have OCD tendencies when I have pms :blush:

Would it let you make one post per category?

um, even if it let me do that, I'd have to make 24 posts...
let's see if it'll let me put in just the "happy" category:
HAPPY: ;) :D :) :biggrin: :p :3eye: :yelgreedy :angel: :destiny: :browhappy :jig:

The "Disapproval/Disgust" category was much bigger...let's see:
DISAPPROVAL/DISGUST: :headshake :rolleyes: :whofart: :smack: :Flush: :boxers: :crazy: :thumbsdn: :bonk: :flamer: :wstupid: :lame: :rtfm:
:smashfrea

Yay! it worked. But would you really want me to make 22 more posts like that?